"Several Committed Relationships but now

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"Several Committed Relationships but now
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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 12:20pm

Single"


This is one of the options to answer the multiple choice "relationship status" question on match.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 12:24pm

What it means to me is that they just got out of an exclusive relationship or two w/in the past couple of years. It means they want a committed relationship and they weren’t a bachelor dating every skirt in town – some guys like that – no commitments and that’s not what I’m looking for.

The Small Peanut

 
 
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 12:43pm

It could mean



  • Since high school

 

 

 

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 12:48pm
I use it because of reasons 1, 3, 4 and 6 in jh's reasons. I know that we have discused before about being wary of people that have never been in a long-term relationship and whether or not that shows commitment or other issues. Even though I have never been married, I have been in healthy long-term relationships before. I don't want someone to think I am a freak because I have never been married by age 34 so I want to be able to show that I am both capable of loving and being loved by someone. I think that status indicates that better than just plain "single".

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 1:19pm

Interesting.

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 1:24pm

I've never been married. I chose "so long ago..." mostly because a) it's true and b) online people seem to be obsessed with what they call "baggage" and I wanted to indicate that I am "over it" whatever it was.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 2:03pm

I was once on match looong ago. Option #2 {Committed relationships but never married}

 

 

 

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 2:14pm

Peanut-

Is that your puppy in the picture posted on your profile?

Jodie

 

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 11:56am

I think this is the kind of thing that women worry/think about a lot more than men do.

From my point of view, there's really only about three categories of answers to the "relationship status" question.

Single (ie, not married, not "separated", not "in a committed relationship"... single. As in available to date. "Divorced" counts as single.)

Married (ie, married. "Separated" counts as "married" to me- after all, if you're only "separated" you cannot legally get married... because you're already MARRIED.)

Widowed (ie, you were married or committed-relationship, but now your spouse/significant other is dead. The reason I include people who weren't married at the time of the death in this group is because they're dealing with all, or nearly all, of the issues that someone who WAS married would be dealing with anyway, so they count as being "widowed".)

Now, if you really want, you could expand the "single" category into several subcategories, like "committed relationships but now single" or "committed but never actually married" or "been so long..." but it all comes down to either yer single or you're not.

In fact, if you want to get really technical, "widowed" should probably be under the "single" category, and there should only be TWO categories. You're either single or you're married.

That said, I think that the various divisions and sub-categories are intended to try and give a sense of the variations in human relationships. Let's face it, there's a LOT of variations on what "committed" might mean to different people; what I think is "committed" and what someone else thinks is "committed" are often completely different things.

I'll say something else: "Single" should mean that someone is mentally and emotionally available for a relationship. I occasionally would come across a woman who would get out there, maybe have three or five dates, and she wound up realizing that she really wasn't over her ex and was unready to date. I've also been in that situation myself.

Doing that is really unfair to the other person; therefore, I urge everyone to be SURE that they're over their ex-whatever. My suggested guideline is that you wait several months before dating after a divorce or serious LTR.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 12:16pm

You know Jodie, some women have their future kids names picked out I have my future dog and dogs name picked out – that’s the real FUTURE small peanut!

 
 
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Registered: 11-29-2004
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 9:20pm
It means they dated in the loonybin.

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