Is sex all they want?

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Registered: 04-15-2006
Is sex all they want?
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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 6:21am
I am so tired of getting messages from guys and within the first five minutes they start wanting to "play". Are there any true romantics out there? Kim

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 9:15am
Hey there!
I'm faithful that there are guys out there who aren't just looking for easy sex. I've definitely encountered this from guys I met online and in person, and I still have faith that not all guys are like that. Of course, the Internet is a place for people, men AND women, to go when they're looking for easy sex because they can usually find a willing person and save face if they're rejected, since online rejection isn't nearly as bad as it is face to face.
I do believe that you'll never truly know what a guy's about until you've met him. In my situation (see "Sex Talk"), I'm confident that the guy isn't just wanting sex; however, I won't know that until I've met him and spent some time in his company. He didn't initiate the sex talk; as a matter of fact it may have been me who initiated it because I ended up talking about the show "Sex and the City", telling him how it was my favorite show. He then asked me, "how do you feel about sex?" and that sparked a general conversation...I digress....
I believe that there are romantics out there. To be honest, there are lots of people out there who, like you, are looking for a meaningful, romantic relationship and not just a quick roll in the hay! It's just a weeding out process. There are some good ones and some bad ones....
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Registered: 04-15-2006
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 4:15pm
The guys I have encountered all instant message and within 10 minutes are asking if I want to see their "prize package" or have online sex... I so don't and get really insulted. Kim
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Registered: 07-01-2005
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 4:38pm
That's so ridiculous. What in the world is online sex anyway? I've never even heard of that one!
Those guys are obviously jerks and should be avoided at all costs. I'm not really a big fan of IMing; people tend to say some pretty crude things. I definitely see how it's insulting; all you can do is ignore the pervs and keep the faith that you'll come across someone who's genuine.
Good luck!!
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Registered: 02-01-2005
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 6:40pm
Believe it or not, there ARE guys out there who don't want to cyber after five minutes, you just need to look for them. What sites are you using?







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Registered: 04-15-2006
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 6:56pm
I am on yahoo, match and webdate. Most of these wierdo's are coming from yahoo. Kim
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Registered: 04-15-2006
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 6:58pm
I did meet one very nice guy online. We dated for awhile but decided we are better off friends. He rescued me from a really bad date last week. LOL, then we went out and I did karaoke for the first time. It's fun going out with him cause there are no expectations. Kim
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Registered: 05-25-2006
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 8:20pm

Kim,

We are out here, we just tend to be a little bit more subdued. :)

Good luck!

George

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Registered: 04-15-2006
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 9:32pm
Thanks for giving me hope... :)
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Registered: 07-18-2004
Thu, 05-25-2006 - 10:25pm

I think the ones using IM, or at least to my experience, are the ones who question sex very quickly. The ones who just go through e-mail may be a little more serious about the process, since you need to get time to know them. But with IM it builds a personal rapore with someone rather quickly.

I will even admit that my ex of 2 1/2 years started this talk when we first started out...of couse, I still made him wait a long time. But even now after being broken up he will message me and start...I finally told him to go get his needs met elsewhere. So watch out girls...he is out there.

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Registered: 05-22-2006
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 10:11am
I'm not sure if it may be because I may be a little older than some people who post here but from my experience it may have something to do with what you say in your profile that could deter this kind of person from contacting you in the first place. I have been on match for awhile and have not gotten any inappropriate contacts. The people I have chosen to meet have been gentlemen. I think it may be in the impression you are giving. Just a thought.

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