Sex and Dating..How long should we wait?

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Sex and Dating..How long should we wait?
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Thu, 09-15-2005 - 2:05pm

There was a thread posted talking about the "common sense" of dating.

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 6:06pm

If you don't know someone well enough to know whether he's honest or not, asking what his expectations are is pointless.

This is the statement of the day – as I said in an earlier thread – do you know how many times a man has said to me “I’m marriage minded, I want to settle down, I’m taking down my ad and only dating you (but doesn’t and uses a lame excuse like his cousin is using it) – men will say what they think you “want to hear” – so take your time to see if the words measure with the actions and that does take time.

 
 
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Registered: 09-02-2003
Fri, 09-16-2005 - 4:20pm

Hmmmmm, somewhere in another post I may have written how trusting I am, LOL.

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Registered: 01-10-2005
Fri, 09-16-2005 - 6:44pm

Sheri has echoed my thoughts exactly.

And "certified" exclusivity plays such a big part. We've had the talk and all profiles are down. Period. I've been led down that garden path way too often.

If I'm going to give that part of me it's because I think the man is very special and I want to make sure he feels the same about me...or pretty damn close! LOL

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 9:58am

There are times when I think I must have been a guy in a previous life! I don't happen to connect sex with permanency at all. My prerequisites are few -- I have to like him, and he needs to be clean, patient and at least average-sized. Can't find out the last, of course, until it's too late to change my mind. :)

As to the original question, I wouldn't jump into the sack right away, what if it turns out I don't like the guy after all? But I don't have a specific time period that I wait.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 10:39am

It is proving very hard to not use my sexual side.

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 10:42am

(Whisper to amjay: shhh, don't tell anyone but you can get a pretty good idea of a guys size without getting naked)

ROFL -- email me and do tell!

amjay

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 10:48am

I was hoping you'd use your imagination, lol, but I did email you specifics.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 1:13pm
Coming in slightly late on this....and having no OLD dates so far...LOL...But I am going to add 2 cents, of course...I am looking forward to sex very much, once I start dating again. :) I doubt, IF I am very attracted to someone and like them, that I will last past the second date. Just telling the truth.
 
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 1:22pm
Ya know, I think that mutual exclusivity idea is a good one, and it is the right way...However, I also have needs....especially right now. I do think I would have the talk about what I want out of the relationship first. If that (my plan #1) did not work with the first guy I date and/or sleep with, then I would have to change my tactics and try to have more willpower.
 
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 1:24pm

Hilarious. Are you talking shoe and hand size or some move you are going to make! LOL!