Sex too soon???

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Registered: 03-05-2008
Sex too soon???
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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 1:53am

I started online dating about a year ago....only dated a few months and stopped due to family issues.

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Registered: 08-02-2010
In reply to: nanniebe
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 4:40pm

I say go for it!! I am in my early 50's and I too don't sleep around. In 2000 I started online dating and found myself "sleeping around" if you will and it was a blast. After about 6 months I found that it wasn't me but I don't regret it for a second. I prefer to be in a relationship when having sex but I am still open for something out of my comfort zone.....

I think dating multiple people is good. You don't know what the future holds but I think if you want to give yourself permission to date out of the box I say do it!!! This affects only you at your age and if you find yourself uncomfortable with something change it up...if you find yourself enjoying yourself but its so different than what you usually do I say keep it up. Only you know the rules for you and make sure you never do something that makes you feel uncomfortable.....

Good luck and have fun!!! Who knows what the future holds...

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Registered: 03-05-2008
In reply to: nanniebe
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 8:15pm

Well, I am not "sleeping" with all of them.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
In reply to: nanniebe
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 9:25am
I think it's perfectly normal to have strong physical chemistry with certain people, and not so much with others. And if you're being safe and having fun, I say go for it! :) The only thing I'd caution is that sex can lead to more intense feelings; which can easily be hurt if one person is only looking for a casual relationship. Have you talked to the chemistry guy about where you see the relationship going?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: nanniebe
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 12:10pm
I think that after years of not having anything and then meeting a guy who you found very attractive, it's understandable. I'm only a little younger than you so I bet you were raised not to have sex unless you were married, which does kind of give you a guilty feeling. However I think most middle aged men do kind of expect to have sex sooner rather than later (the 3rd date rule). I had sex w/ my 2nd DH pretty soon after meeting and obviously it didn't affect our relationship for the worst.
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Registered: 01-20-2009
In reply to: nanniebe
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 3:26pm
It doesn't matter what other people think. It only matters what you feel and think. If in your mind you feel this is the right thing, then by all means continue to enjoy yourselves!
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Registered: 08-08-2009
In reply to: nanniebe
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 12:54am
I hate to tell you women this, well one I will never online date, ever. I want to know who the person is face to face. Speaking of sex, don't be loose and give it up to a man so easily. Make him wait and have respect for you, especially if you want long term. 3 dates is giving it up. You are adult women, think. Gosh, I can't believe what i'm reading. I have not dated in 4 months, and when I finally do. If this is a man I want long term with, he will wait months before I give him myself, I deem myself as a treasure and a gift. I was married for 27 years, hence the reason why my husband married me. I made him wait months. Then he gave me respect. I was not loose or easy.

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