Is she kidding?

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Registered: 05-15-2004
Is she kidding?
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 7:53pm

Ok, some of you may remember a woman I contacted on Match, who sent back an email saying she could not deal with me having "erotica" listed on my profile in the turn-ons section. Fair enough. Well, this week I get a wink from - you guessed it - "erotica hater". Does she not remember that she shot me down a couple of months ago?

Anyway, I go ahead and visit her profile, and the main body is way different than what I remember it to be. It just made me shake my head. Here are some of her better thoughts:

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Unfortunately, most of the good single guys have kids or are married to their jobs.

I've been told that I need someone from a much larger city, but for now, I'm stuck here in Amarillo, but I am open to traveling for the right guy.

Several guys that I've dated have told me that I'm intimidating, so if you are shy or cannot handle a challenge, then you should probably hit the "back" button on your computer right now.

Honestly, I'm sick of playing games and would like to find an intelligent, athletic, successful man to settle down with. Ideally, he would own his own business or be high enough within his company to be able to spend time with his family AND support them financially.

Last, but certainly not least, I am looking for a Christian man who puts God first. This means that if you are a fan of "erotica," then don't email me! Sorry guys, but I don't want to have to deal with pornography or wondering if you're at the strip club! For some reason, I have attracted this sort of guy in the past and it has been a huge waste of time. This time around, I want a sweet, simple guy who only wants me!
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So what do you women think? Will she get a lot of hits from this profile? lol...

Eric

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 9:32pm
I have a crazy idea! Invite her here... LOLOL
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Registered: 09-27-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 10:04pm
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Registered: 08-10-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 10:12pm
wow...that profile just screams please I have been hurt please come do it again because I am going to scare off anyone that is normal...
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Registered: 09-14-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 10:13pm
So what's the latest on that issue? I've been in your shoes and still may be. I never know.
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Registered: 09-18-2004
In reply to: eric_35m
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 11:36pm

in agreeement w/ rest of posters

she is bitter, and angry at someone from her past and is making every man pay for it.. due to you just putting erotica you paid .. and she was reading into something and making it bigger than it is.

glad you didn't get a chance to go out her.. !!!

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 9:09am
Your situation can be remedied. Do not say "stop calling" just hang up. Change your phone number to an unlisted number. Block her email address. And if she calls your work have the legal department at your company type up a letter about harrassing you and legal action.
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Registered: 05-12-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 9:22am
I don't mind if a guy likes erotica or porn, it's almost to be expected. But if he came out and admitted it on his profile, I would wonder if he was only out for sex, irregardless of what the rest of the profile said, and I wouldn't contact him or return his contact. She sounds like a negative, complaining, controlling, overbearing jelous person from her profile. She may not be any of those things, she just may not know how to present herself.
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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 9:34am
Oh my gosh!!!

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Registered: 09-23-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 9:37am

You know it's a numbers game so she probably sent a few winks to good looking men without reviewing their profile. Of course, she could be targeting men who do not meet her criteria in an attempt for you to read her profile.

I'm almost positive she will get responses from men who think she is "bitter"! I feel her pain, but I wouldn't write about it on my profile. It's probably time for her to take a break from online but her underlying reasons I can relate to! It is frustrating and a bit discouraging meeting "quality" men IRL and/or online.

Unfortunately going about it in this manner slims her chances even further.

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Registered: 09-14-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 9:45am
Maybe she didn't recognize you because of your new picture with a goatee?? LOL