Is she kidding?

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Registered: 05-15-2004
Is she kidding?
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 7:53pm

Ok, some of you may remember a woman I contacted on Match, who sent back an email saying she could not deal with me having "erotica" listed on my profile in the turn-ons section. Fair enough. Well, this week I get a wink from - you guessed it - "erotica hater". Does she not remember that she shot me down a couple of months ago?

Anyway, I go ahead and visit her profile, and the main body is way different than what I remember it to be. It just made me shake my head. Here are some of her better thoughts:

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Unfortunately, most of the good single guys have kids or are married to their jobs.

I've been told that I need someone from a much larger city, but for now, I'm stuck here in Amarillo, but I am open to traveling for the right guy.

Several guys that I've dated have told me that I'm intimidating, so if you are shy or cannot handle a challenge, then you should probably hit the "back" button on your computer right now.

Honestly, I'm sick of playing games and would like to find an intelligent, athletic, successful man to settle down with. Ideally, he would own his own business or be high enough within his company to be able to spend time with his family AND support them financially.

Last, but certainly not least, I am looking for a Christian man who puts God first. This means that if you are a fan of "erotica," then don't email me! Sorry guys, but I don't want to have to deal with pornography or wondering if you're at the strip club! For some reason, I have attracted this sort of guy in the past and it has been a huge waste of time. This time around, I want a sweet, simple guy who only wants me!
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So what do you women think? Will she get a lot of hits from this profile? lol...

Eric

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Registered: 06-26-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 9:48am

People sometimes post a profile That is affected by the immidiate antecedents.

I almost .... with a guy once. well lets say we were dating and when it came time to be intimate I found out he leaves skid marks.(to me it is a total absolute deal breaker)
So on my profile I made a song and dance of personal hygene.
I may have appeared a bit OTT but I needed to make sure folks with questionable hygene need not apply. At least the lady in Eric's knows what she wants and may have made a mistake in sending a wink. Who is 100% attentive all the time.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 9:57am
Can we say "issues"?


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Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 10:02am

At first glance, I misread your screen name as l81moreSEX...and thought, well, she ain't for you, dude.

ROFLOL


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Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 10:05am

Oh, yeah, that would be great.

We could have a betting pool on how many people get banned for TOS violations in the first 2 days of her posting here.

ROFLOL


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Registered: 05-15-2004
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 1:41pm

There is nothing wrong with making yourself clear as to what you are looking for -- but to me this was kinda the female equivalent of those male profiles that say "Unless you're a gorgeous woman with a perfect body, you need not apply". She comes across as very snobby and high-maintenance, and she does have some contradictions. For example, she doesn't want a man who is at work all the time, yet she wants a man who owns his own business? I hate to break it to her, but owning your own business takes *lots* of time and effort.

She may have very well sent me that wink so I would see her profile now that it's different. I may also be the inspiration of that line about erotica. If so, it tells me how much of a "B" she really is -- all I did was email her, and she responded with a "not interested" reply. That was it. I left it alone after that. Does she need to rub it in?

Eric

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Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 1:47pm
Don't sweat it. Next time I'm in TX, I'll bring the Playboy and we can read the articles to each other. ;P


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Registered: 04-07-2005
In reply to: eric_35m
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 2:37pm

She sounds passive/aggressive to me. It's so yes yes yes no no no. I don't think she wants a relationship and her profile discourages one from the get go. She is also the type who would complain because she doesn't get many responses from her profile. She flirted with you because she's run out of options and can't remember who she shot down. This is the down side of on-line dating.

Fluffy

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