Should I admit that I lied :)

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Should I admit that I lied :)
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Thu, 03-30-2006 - 9:39pm
I work with a bunch insecure men. some had never had a GF their whole life. I started working in this company and was in LTR. But we broke up. the coworkers dont know we broke up a year ago yet they hit on me on every single occasion (among them the owner of the company) I know I can get him in trouble if I want kuz on Xmas dinner he was drunk and he kept touching me and would not let go... so I had to pretend that I m still seeing my X and that I m taken.
Now a colleague (Girl) asked me if I have a BF and said she had a great guy she wanted to introduce me to. Now everyone in the office thinks I have a BF and she is best friends with one who thinks I have a BF. She said he is just a fantastic guy for you and the way she described him made me interested but dont know how to handle the lie about having a Long distance BF.
suggestions?
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 9:11am

Why is your dating life anyone's business in the office?

If someone asks and you don't want to discuss it, just say "I prefer to keep business and private life separate".


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Registered: 08-22-2005
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 9:20am
I understand you just wanting to say you're in a relationship to keep a certain distance between you and male coworkers. If you are really interested in the guy that your collegue wants to introduce you to, then just say you guys broke up... but then that would mean that the collegue would probably tell the guy shes setting you up with that you just broke up with your boyfriend. Wouldnt you tell the guy the truth?
Honestly, I think this is a situation where you might be better off leaving work separate and not meet this guy she wants to introduce you to. JMHO
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 9:46am

You're in a sticky one.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 6:33pm
I decided to pass up the guy. I did tell her that although I was curious to know more about her friend I m in a LDR and I m working out a solution with my BF in the near future... Yeah whatever!! I mean this BF was never in town everytime we had a function at work! I even thought once I will ask my FWB to pose as the BF and he did not mind.
I m especially careful now that one of the guys who used to hit on me all the time is on a stress leave for 3 months. I m not sure if he is depressed and if I have part in this depression but I still want to be sure my rejections do not make anyone feel like a loser so I will keep pretending about the imaginary BF!