Should I be concerned about this friend?
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| Tue, 03-01-2005 - 12:15am |
I met an online friend more than 6 months ago. I mean we are just online friends; we have never met each other personally because we both live in different countries.
Since we start to get to know each other, he started to feel confident with me and open up and tell me everything that goes in his life, his work, his friends, what he does on weekend, etc For some reason he started to feel attracted to me to the point that now he is saying he loves me. He tells me he feels attracted and he fantasizes with me. I guess he likes so much and dreams about me, that he now says things that I was not expecting to read. He asks me if I love him. I haven’t answered that question. He says that he understand that we are online friends but for some reason a person knows when another person likes you, when a person is attracted to you regardless if it is personally or in this case by the internet, he feels that for me. He says he feels different toward me, he feels he is starting to like me more than he thought. Now since he feels that for me, he writes me that he would love to have sex with me and be with me and he even asked me if I wish he have sex with me, but I haven’t answered him that question. I mean when I first met him he was not like that he changed once he started to get to know me better and we were more comfortable talking to each other about any topic. Now he has came up with those statements. He even has asked me to give him my work phone number in order for him to call me, because he does not want to call me at my house, just in case my parents are there. I haven’t given him any phone number yet.
As I said we both live in different countries and we have never met each other in person, ever and we don’t intend to do so, we have never spoke about it.

Hi Maru,
It is truly inappropriate for him to be talking about a physical relationship when you have not met. It is NOT possible to know if you want to go that far,nor do I feel it is really possible to be "in love" with someone under those same circumstances.
I would not write to him any longer and pursue something here, close to you--someone you Can meet and get to know.
Truly,
Cupcake
Good morning, maru. Welcome to the board.
Alarm bells went off in my head while reading your post. You really must stop all contact with this person, for your own safety. His statements are completely inappropriate and show no respect for you.
If you watch or listen to the news, you will find out that this has happened to many, many people with sometimes disastrous results.
Online meetings only really work when you are talking to people in your community, close enough to meet up on a regular basis to form a real relationship and come to a true judgment of their worth.
All you have to do is block his email address and he will never bother you again. I sincerely hope you take my advice.
Ann-Marie
One thing that concerns me is his comment about your "parents" being home.