Should I call?

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Registered: 07-07-2004
Should I call?
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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 2:38am

I'm new to OLD. Here's what happened. I met a man online. He emailed me with his photo attached. The picture was not very flattering, but I chock it up to what appears as a low-quality digital and lack of creativity. He asked for my pic in return and then we exchanged a few emails then proceeded to a phone call.

The call was EXTREMELY boring. He barely talked and I had to work hard to get the conversation going. I was relieved to finally end the call. Despite the struggle, it ended on a high note--relatively speaking.

Well, this was in mid-May. I never heard back from him after that phone call--not by email or phone. I wasn't offended and really completely forgot about him.

I got an email from him yesterday saying that he's been really busy working weekends and is looking forward to things wrapping up at work so that we can have an opportunity to meet. He said he lost my phone number and asked that I send it again.

Has anyone ever had a very boring email/phone connection only to find that things livened up upon meeting? I've never really met anyone in this order before so I don't know what to make of it. My gut tells me that he is not the one. However, I would hate to miss out on someone who MIGHT be the one.

Anyway, what is the protocol for responding in cases such as this. Write him and say, "not interested" or accept his excuse for not making ANY contact for an entire month?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-18-2006
In reply to: lexie93
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 11:17am

Always trust your gut - ALWAYS! I speak from experience...doesn't matter how you met or when he called...if you know he's not the one, then he's not the one today and he won't be tomorrow. I've learned quite a bit over the past two years of being single and dating. At this point in time, if my gut goes off, I don't waste my time or the man's.

Just my humble opinion - do what you feel is the right thing. I wouldn't, tho, judging by what you wrote.