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Should I Call
| Thu, 09-15-2005 - 2:31pm |
I recently met someone while I was out having dinner - we ended up talking for 7 hours had a great time!! I left him a message when i got home per his request so he would know i made it home safely - I went away for the rest of the weekend - he left me a message later that evening expressing what a good time he had and looks forward to seeing me again and he will talk to me later- (that was Saturday evening) I retuend his call Monday morning letting him know I too had a great time and would like to chat again soon- its now Thursday and I havent heard from him SHOULD I CALL??

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No.The ball is in his court – he needs to return your call. If he’s really into you he will pin you down for another date and if he’s busy (maybe travel this weekend or whatever) he’ll return your call expressing he’s busy and will pick a date for next week to have a second date. If he’s not, chances are your one of a few he’s dating so let him come to you.
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I say no, you called him last it's his turn and if he likes you and wants to see you again, he will call.
I consulted my book (yes, I have a great book...its "mars and venus on a date") I don't take the book as the bible but on some points its right on. From the chapter about calling or not.......
"when a women pursues a man, automatically he will relax and become more passive about the relationship." It goes on to explain that when you stop pursuing him then usually he will lose interest.
it also points out "How many times have you ended a relationship that the man suddenly becomes interested?"
so the book recommends two options. one--fill up your time with activites and other relationships so you are not sitting by the phone. or two calling-- but keeping to convesation short. my personal rule is if I can't imagine past hello and two sentances then I don't call....oh the games we play.
Absolutely not!
TWO MORE QUESTIONS-
1) SINCE HE CALLED THE NEXT NIGHT AND I DIDNT RETURN THAT CALL FOR TWO DAYS DO YOU THINK THAT TURNED HIM OFF
2) SHOULD I GO BACK TO THE PLACE I MET HIM TOMORROW NIGHT (HE GOES THERE ALOT) I WAS INVITED TO GO THERE TO MEET SOME OTHER PEOPLE BUT I DONT WANT TO SEEM LIKE A STALKER
I agree with everyone else....I have the same problem of I want to call and call and text and call......two things I do...one I delete his phone number from everywhere.I have gone as far as repograming my cell with a girlfiends number under the guys name.
then two, I find some activities and fill my time. for example, I do pi-yo or yoga 2 nights a week. (it gets me out of the apartment and it helps me to relax) I have taken a pottery class at our local park/rec office (8 weeks for 65.00)(again it gets me out of the apartment and gives me a chance to meet friends) I have taken a mosaic tile class through park/rec (6 weeks 45.00) I am currently taking Knitting. You get the idea...If you look there should be some fun and cheap things to do within your area. And I also think that sooner or later I will stumble upon aomething that I really love and am passionate about....
I know no one in my area to go and do things with so therefore I make my own "social schedule" that has nothing to do with men (unless there happens to be a cute one in a class). I find things that I don't mind doing solo....and there are always plenty of other solo people at the activities.
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