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Should I Call
| Thu, 09-15-2005 - 2:31pm |
I recently met someone while I was out having dinner - we ended up talking for 7 hours had a great time!! I left him a message when i got home per his request so he would know i made it home safely - I went away for the rest of the weekend - he left me a message later that evening expressing what a good time he had and looks forward to seeing me again and he will talk to me later- (that was Saturday evening) I retuend his call Monday morning letting him know I too had a great time and would like to chat again soon- its now Thursday and I havent heard from him SHOULD I CALL??

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Here ya go - if you really want to go out, go ahead and go there with your friends. But do NOT approach him or go out of your way to strike up conversation with him if he's there. If you do go and he is there and he does talk to you, don't be aloof or rude - just be polite. If he gives you lame excuses for not calling you, just say, "Well, you know how to reach me if you ever want to," and change the subject. If he is there, and he does talk to you and expresses that he's interested (or tells you to call him), do NOT call him again. Let his fingers do the dialing.
Like I mentioned, if your interest in going is truly because you want to hang out with your friends and have a good time, then by all means - don't NOT go just because of the guy. Just be mature about it, don't go out of your way to talk to him, and "be cool."
Miklyn...
That is so great that you met someone and had such a great time!! However, after reading "He's Just Not That Into You", if he were, he would have called by now. Don't call him!! Let him make the first move. I would give it another day or so, if he hasn't called, MOVE ON!!! You deserve more and better!!!
It happens to me all the time – men tell you what they think you want to hear – actions speak louder than words so anything any man tells you early on let it go in one ear and out the next until they have proven themselves over time. Its our job to put on the breaks and keep our expectations low. so as I said stop obsessing and date – tis a numbers game.
I completely and totally understand where your coming from and what your feelings are. Just trust your gut on this one. But, I really do feel that if he was that interested, he would move heaven and earth to call you. Are you guys local, in the same city?
I hope that you didn't that I was being too harsh...
No i didnt think you were being harsh. we live like 15 mins apart he was even telling me what he wanted to name his kids and then he found out we were the same sign and was ssoooooo happy - we sat outside the place talking til 5;30 am he was like i am so glad you came here blah blah blah- why bother with that - why bother calling the next day
men are dumb
mind you i was not looking for him he came to me - i was just late to the airport making more of a mistake by going to visit someone i just moved away from
Hi Mik,
"Do Nothing and Have Nothing To Regret"--ie,please do Not call. The thing is..all of these questions we ask ourselves; "should I call him?" "what did that mean?" "when will he ask me out again?"..if he is really the Man for you, you will NEVER, and I mean, NEVER ask yourself a question like that again. He will 'fill in each blank', 'push each button' well befor you even have time to Think about it.
I know this is true, because after 8 months on OLD, and asking myself questions and doing "Agony 101" over and over...I met Tall Man. In 6 great months now, I have never had a worry; He was the one who suggested we take out profiles down and Unsubscribe that same day from OLD, and he keeps me informed as to where I am with him, at all times.
This is how I know...and it Will happen for you...just keep rolling on, til someone gives you a Great reason to stop! Don't chase anyone, you are worth TOO much for that!
Best o Luck
Truly,
Cupcake
hello
and thank you for your comments (all of you) i actually went to the place i met this guy weekend before met up with the other people i met (the guy in question didnt go) it turns out the other guy who i thought was just going to be my friend wanted to ask me out (but there is no attraction on my end) we ended up playing pool and i met more people and had a great late time!!! so saturday night i was at a friends and didnt hear my phone and guess who finally called ??? yep and i missed his call he said guess we are playing phone tag and he wanted to see how i was doing and hoped to talk with me really soon wishe me a good weekend etc etc
so on that note am i to return his call now or wait -?? i am getting over the whole thing and really just missing the guy i left in new york - i feel like a nut
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