should I do this? (& pretty boy update)

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Registered: 08-12-2006
should I do this? (& pretty boy update)
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Tue, 01-02-2007 - 10:37pm

Well, ladies, I emailed pretty boy my picture on New Year's Day and still, no response from him. See, isn't it just like a pretty boy to have high expectations...I was right.

I've just about given up on him, so that's my update on that one.

But I didn't tell you ladies about this other guy and I'm wondering what I should do next.

Before the holidays (and while I was emailing on and off with pretty boy), I was also emailing to another guy. I think we were going great with the corresponding. I sent him a holiday e-card I made and he, in return, sent me one.

After Christmas, I sent him an email to just say "hello" and to ask him how his holiday went. No reply. Ok, so I thought maybe he was on vacation during the whole week up until New Year's. Well, I've waited this long and still no reply from him. Should I drop him another email or has he vaporized on me?

I hate to tell you all this, but I sort of placed all my eggs in one basket with this guy. He seemed like a sure winner with me. Yeah, I know I'm falling for the fantasy and not being realistic. I still haven't learned from that yet.

You know, I'm not having much luck with these guys or OLD. No, wait, I can't say that. There was a guy who was asking me if I was still interested in him and I had to turn him down (because I felt we didn't click). I'm just starting to get frustrated with this.

And I feel like telling pretty boy off! I feel like saying something sarcastic to him like, "I told you you had high expectations for a woman." "If you are comfortable with the way you are, I will be too" -- my darn butt you'll be.

Anyway, I feel like emailing the other guy again to see what's up, you know? What do you suppose happened? Do you suppose I did something wrong?

I'm gonna email him, but what do I say? I just would like to know if he's still interested in me or what. But I wanna be polite about it.

Help me out, ladies. Thanks.

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Registered: 11-08-2003
Tue, 01-02-2007 - 10:53pm
I think it would be a mistake to express your anger to the man. It isn't personal since you have never met. I often have people send me messages and there is either nothing in their profile that appeals to me or they just aren't my type. I've had the reverse happen as well and just take it with a grain of salt. I prefer men with dark hair and eyes so a gorgeous blond could message me and I might not reply. It doesn't mean he isn't attractive - it just means he isn't my type. That's the unfortunate side of internet dating.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 12:57am

Let both of them go without saying anything. Take the high road and just let it lie.

Neither of them owe you anything at this point.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 12:59am

I say hang in there another day or so waiting on pretty boy. Maybe

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 3:52am
I dont feel like either of them "owe" you anything. This is VERY typical of OLD. You can chat & flirt & talk or whatever, for weeks - & suddenly they dissapear. Until you actually MEET someone, then dont even THINK about all your eggs in 1 basket b/c you really have NO clue who they are.

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 7:57am
Hi,
I would not bother with either of these guys. If they are interested, they will show you. On OLD, my experience has been that most people have a very short attention span. It's like being hungry when you walk around the candy store, first you see the gummies, then you spot the chocolate, then licorice....they just keep moving. It's not you, but their interest level(in dating, not in you) is not the same as yours. Good luck to you.
E
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Registered: 08-12-2006
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 12:11pm

Hey, thank you for the advice. And to all the other ladies as well.

No, I don't think I'll wait around for pretty boy. And I will try to refrain from sending him a nastygram. I sent him my photo because it was only fair for me to do - I have to remember that. And like NWW said, he owes me nothing.

I don't think we probably had anything in common anyway, other than that we're both creatives.

It IS his loss...he's losing out on someone who's considerate, caring, and a sweet gal. This goes for the other guy also (the one I put all my eggs in).

Do you think these guys ever think back at the ones they dropped and say, "You know, she was a sweet person. Why did I ever drop her?"

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Registered: 08-12-2006
Wed, 01-03-2007 - 12:16pm
P.S. I forgot to add...Congrats to you on K!