should I just forget about him?

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should I just forget about him?
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Sat, 06-18-2005 - 1:34am

I posted this question on another board, but I would like to hear your opinions:


This guy I met on match.com and I have been emailing each other for 3 days...yesterday, we got the opportunity to chat online...I was telling him a story about talking with a telemarketer, and he said that he always flirts with the female ones for "cheap thrills".

    
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Registered: 02-07-2005
Sat, 06-18-2005 - 2:30am

Hi Lori,

Well I do not like it when guys flirt with ladies when they are supposed to be with me and it shows no class and no respect for the lady they are with. The "cheap thrills" part sounded a little icky to me, but again that is JMHO.

If I feel any uneasiness with a guy before I meet him, then I usually trust my instincts and go with not meetng them, because when I haven't trusted them and gone against them, I wish I had listened instead!

I have gone out with guys who were very cute but who I was not sure of beforehand and some of them turned out to be such jerks. They thought because they were cute that they could leave their manners behind and you'll let it pass - not me!

If you next him, there will be others. Don't meet him just because he's attractive, intelligent, and has shown interest in you. He can't be too intelligent if he is already admitting he flirts with other ladies while he has a gf and worse yet, that he thinks it's ok! If it were me, I'd say NEXT!!!! You deserve someone better!

Sunshine

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Sat, 06-18-2005 - 8:00am

How do you know he likes you? just because he's flirty with you? Isn't that what he says he does all the time???

Don't kid yourself that he'd be different with YOU. He must be proud of this behavior somehow as he's pointing it out to you before you even meet! Or giving himself cover. "HOney, you can't get mad at me for coming on to that waitress, I TOLD you I was a flirt!"

Somebody once said you can learn everything you need to know about somebody in the first five minutes of conversation. While I don't think that's *totally* true, when I look back on my life and relationships, I sure wish I had paid more attention to some of the stuff that came up in the very first conversations....

Next.

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Sat, 06-18-2005 - 10:05am

Hi Y'all,

This man is Telling you what has gotten him in Hot H2o before and saying that it is something he Will do and he has, as SposaB said, thrown down the 'disclaimer', so you have no room to squawk....ahh,but you DO!

YOU deserve a man who does not 'share' his attention when he is with you. I do not like men/women who 'scan' when they are on a date! Looking quickly is fine, it is human nature, sometimes something catches your eye..but I agree with the 'cheap thrills' comment being slimy-ish...who wants "cheap' anything!?

Meet him if you like, but remember that handsome is skin deep, while "player" goes Alll the way to the core.

I give it a Ding! next!...sounds like a little emotional immaturity in the go box!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Sat, 06-18-2005 - 2:37pm
I agree with cupcake, he has player written all over him... do you really want to put yourself in the middle of that nonsense... I would pass....
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Sun, 06-19-2005 - 3:17pm

uh what? start running from this guy. this is his way of getting himself off the hook in case things go further with you two - and he ends up "flirting" with other chics. That is not ok. People flirt all the time, most of the time its harmless. BUt that is just not something you openingly tell someone you just met. Plus the cheap thrills thing? TMI too soon.

He does not sound like hes a grown up at all. Move on girl.