should I meet him?
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should I meet him?
| Sat, 06-24-2006 - 3:00pm |
A year ago I was writing to some soldiers in Iraq and senting packages to the troops. One guy and I developed a stronger friendship, and ended up emailing and sending letters back and forth more often. He lives a few states over. While on 2 week leave, he sent flowers to say thanks. He came back home, and we were both busy. We still emailed, imed and talked on the phone, but haven't meet. He used to ask me to meet him, but I didn't have the time and, honestly, was a little worried/paranoid about what might happen (all those things you hear on the news!). Now, I'm off for the summer and we've started discussions of him possibly visiting. Clearly, there are pros and cons to both sides. I know all the keeping yourself in a public place, tell people where you are... all of those "rules". Will I regret not meeting him? Am I entering a bad situation? I generally say I should trust my gut, which says I've known and talked to him long enough and you never know who you are dating when you date someone you meet. (Although generally, you meet through a quality place like work or school or through a friend.) Should I meet him or resist the temptation?

I don't think there's inherently anything wrong with meeting him. But is he coming to see you, or are you traveling to him? I'd definitely make sure you play it safe if you do decide to meet. Make sure someone knows where you are, don't stay in a hotel with him, meet in a public place, etc, etc, etc.
Is there a chance either of you would ever move to the same state?