Should I Meet Him???
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| Thu, 09-22-2005 - 12:47pm |
Okay, remember this previous post:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlcyber&msg=9923.1
Well we still conversate – although he was away for a month -- had been dealing with issues from New Orleans and beginning a new job. Our conversations are light and on two occasions, previously and then recently, he invited me to a party, to which we both did not attend. Mind you just general conversation, but not setting an actual plan to meet at the party and neither one of us calling stating we would not attend. We would then talk the following day, about how we both fell asleep and laugh about it! Anyway, at this point I’m ready to meet him and as such are keeping the convos light.
Well he just called me at work, and we begin with our usual idle chit chat (how is your day, what are you doing, blah, blah, blah). Anyway he is starting a new job and I asked him if he was working this weekend (working as a chef in a new jazz/blues club) and he said “yesâ€. So I said well possibly I may come and check out the new club (apparently for the 30+ crowd) and he said “yeah, if you do, just ask for me and I’ll come out.†Then he said while laughing, “possibly I could come out and retrieve you and throw you in the freezer to cool you off!†WTF?? We ended the call stating we would talk later and he also mentioned that he would let me know about the club location.
You know I was so infatuated ONLY by his looks (and profile) and the more I talk to him, I’m not sure where he’s coming from plus losing interest. He is the type of guy that likes to joke a lot (can be a bit annoying – smile) but obviously likes staying in touch with me for whatever reason! Also no "planned" meet and greets.
Okay, would you guys go and meet this guy OR should I keep talking to him until either one of us "ghosts"??

Too much chit-chat prior to meeting, IMO! That says to me he's not really serious about meeting you, so I would put the ball in his court: email him and ask him to call when he is ready to set a time to meet...and I would NOT go to the club as your first meet.
If he calls and doesn't set a time, then I'd stop talking to him.
Sheri
If you have nothing you want to do more, then I would go check him out. What have you got to lose? Just my thoughts off the cuff. :)
Sara
Edited 9/22/2005 4:57 pm ET ET by saralm
I say meet him out – actually, less pressure for both of you if no real life sparks and you can have fun with another friend. Nothing worse then sitting thru a date w/someone you know you’re not into – the best of both worlds this way. You can say “well, I better let you go so I can get back to my friends†if it’s not so good.
Good luck!