Should I start OLD again?
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| Thu, 10-27-2005 - 10:17pm |
This situation may be difficult to convey so that you understand. I am seeing a man I absolutely adore; we've been together since we met in January, except for a couple of breaks last spring (my doing--when I was tempermental). Neither of us has the time or energy to date anyone else, frankly, but I know he likes to imagine that he is fancy-free. He still gets online and looks, and we joke about joining different dating sites. Meanwhile, we are together each weekend and have spent time with each other's families, by which I mean parents and siblings (we are both over fifty and never married). When I started OLD, I thought maybe I'd have quite a lot of fun dates, maybe even get some SEX, which I hadn't had in years!, then EVENTUALLY meet someone. I hadn't counted on meeting someone so soon. However, I adjusted, and realized that, different as we are, I really could spend what remains of my life with him. But as I have mentioned, he doesn't feel like making such a commitment. I don't know if he is looking for someone "better," or is just one of those crusty bachelors who don't want any womenfolk interfering in their cozy lives!
Therefore, it seems as though the smart thing for me to do would be to date some other men, which really means getting online again (I'm not active on any site right now), as I sure don't meet them IRL! Instead of Match and Yahoo, I would try some of the more specialized sites. On one hand, it could be fun; on the other hand, I RARELY see any faces I want to meet. One one hand, doing so might protect me if my bf decides to move on; on the other hand, I hate spending $$$ I can't afford and time I don't have. Occasionally I just sort of imply to him that I have another date, but I don't know if that stirs any fires of jealousy or not.
(You are wondering what is so great about this guy...I'll just say that we share the same sense of humor, the same philosophical/nonreligious outlook; he is different from me in many ways, but I have learned with him to appreciate those differences; and he has been supportive and kind and helpful to me when I have been sick. And I find him very attractive!)
