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should I subscribe or not?
| Wed, 06-22-2005 - 6:41pm |
I've been on lavalife for awhile now, met two guys which didn't work out. I'm thinking now of subscribing to the site so that I can email whoever I want but I'm debating whether I should or not. I've sent smiles to three guys who sent smiles back but they apparently don't have credits to email. I'd like to be able to send emails myself but is it really worth it? For those women here that subscribe to dating sites, do you have any luck contacting the guys? Let me know what you think.

Let me ask you this.
Hi DA,
Yes I feel that it is worth imvesting in being a paying member on the dating sites. I can't say much about Lavalife since I have no experience with that one, but I have been on Match and Yahoo Personals and I had better luck on Match. Match doesn't have IM, but Yahoo does, yet IMing has not been a good thing for me because usually the guys who IM me are looking for sex mainly and I am looking for a LTR.
Yet once we make contact, then IMing for a little while seems to work, yet I try to move it on to a phone call after a few short emails so that I can hear their voice, and inthe phone conversation try to get a meeting set. I don't like to IM, email, or talk on the phone for a real long time before we meet, or I feel that I have wasted my time if when we meet, there is no interest on either of our parts.
You asked about contacting men - well I have found it has worked well either way, whether I have winked or emailed them first or they made the first move. Yet, I do think the guys who made the first move were more interested in me at the meets. At first I felt weird making contact first, but after awhile you get used to it and just go for it and if they don't respond them oh well, their loss!!! Next!
Also, you may want to just do a one month membership (even though it is generally more expensive than what one month would be in a 3 month membership) in case you find that you don't like that site and want to try a different one.
Best of luck to you in OLD and with your decision.
Sunshine