should I try again?

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Registered: 01-04-2014
should I try again?
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Sat, 01-04-2014 - 4:25pm

Ok, so I met this guy online. I am 35 and he is 22. anyway we worked out meeting up (someplace public of course) tonite but like every guy, you give an inch, and they want to u know so after some light flirting a couple nites ago he sent "the pic" but thank goodness there was a towel involved as well lol, and he even sent right after he sent it that he was sorry if I thought it was inappropriate and was really cool and understanding when I basically told him and was honest, saying I dont like to get into thie heavy stuff before meeting someone but after he said he was sorry that nite, I didnt text him back till the next day since I honestly was reconsidering meeting him at that point; I know he apologized for sending it but the fact of the matter is he still sent it and I have learned before when guys send pics like this they are only out for one thing, plus he is 22 and I'm 35 so can I realistically think he is wanting more than that? which wouldnt be a bad thing either ;) but then the age thing gets me wondering again if this is the best age to have a fling with. anyway I decided yesterday to text him back and told him apology accepted. he texted right back thanking me for accepting. since then he hasnt texted again (tho neither have I) so i'm wondering if i should leave it be since it is such an age gap too or take the initiative and text him again and maybe see where this goes?

any thoughts?

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Registered: 01-04-2014
Thu, 01-30-2014 - 7:59am

sorry?

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Registered: 01-10-2014
Fri, 01-10-2014 - 2:25pm
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Registered: 01-04-2014
Sun, 01-05-2014 - 11:51am
Thank you both for the advice; you each pretty much confirmed what I was thinking as well; it's not even a question of if he wants the fwb or an actual relationship; it's a question of whether I am willing to do the fwb and just have fun with it; I appreciate y'all's input. I did the 22-yr old thing before and unfort he was an example of Immature to the nines, but also then I was 28 so the gap wasn't quite as huge ~ thanks again guys
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 01-04-2014 - 10:18pm

I think that most young guys who are going after an older woman assume that they are going to get a "cougar" type who is in it for sex--realistically do you really think you could have a relationship with such a young man?  No matter how mature he is for his age, he's still just starting out as an adult.  So it depends on what you want.

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Registered: 09-29-2010
Sat, 01-04-2014 - 8:50pm

There's a big age difference but to me the real issue would be the ages. If he was 32 and you 45 it might work because he would probably be a mature man. But many 22 year old guys are still like kids. He might be looking for a hook up or sugar mama especially since he sent the racy photo before meeting. If you are willing to do a hook up/fwb thing with him then go ahead and meet him; if you're lucky he will be mature or at least a lot of fun.