Should I Wait?

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Should I Wait?
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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 4:30pm
I have been in a in a long distance relationship for about 3 mos We haven't met yet do to low funds on both parts. I now have the funds to go see him. I will be staying with a friend nearby. Should I make the trip and see him since he can't?

BABY GIRL DUE ON JUNE 25TH
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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: julisa06
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 4:41pm

ABSOLUTELY you should meet!!! So many times, the connection you feel online or on the phone does not translate to real life. What you are living is a fantasy life right now because you do not know the real person and how they are in day to day life.

It sounds like you have a good safe plan. Make sure to stay with your friend and make sure that friend knows where you are at all times when you are hanging out with this guy. Have fun, be careful and keep your expectations low. You might think you are "in love" or in a "relationship" with this guy, but it isn't real until you've met and spent time IN PERSON. Good luck!




Edited 3/6/2006 5:14 pm ET by vexer_hw

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Registered: 01-26-2006
In reply to: julisa06
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 5:10pm
Thanks for the advice.

BABY GIRL DUE ON JUNE 25TH
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: julisa06
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 9:56pm
Dont want to sound mean but what do you expect from a LDR when you both have no money to visit each other? I think you are setting yourself for disappointment.
Long distance rarely works especially if there is not have enough money to visit each other . Even when you have the $$, it takes a lot of planning to travel and your vacation time will eventually run out and you will find yourself exhausted/sick from travelling to the same place over and over.
I suggest you try and meet other guys from your city.