Should I wink?

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Should I wink?
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 11:00am

Looking for input:

Found a profile that I really like. The two things that are making me hesitate in contacting him are 1. I'm a little out of his age preference and 2. He has a "yes" in the want children? field.

I'm considering a note along the lines of "hey, I dig your profile, if you can get over the fact that I'm older than you and don't want kids, let's meet."

Comments?


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: sisfox
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 11:05am

Why not send the message? It's a long shot, obviously, but you've got nothing to lose, unless you would be upset at not hearing from him or getting a rejection email...but knowing you I don't think that would be the case, would it ;-)?

Sheri

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Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: sisfox
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 11:11am

Me? Hurt by rejection?

LOL, no seriously, you're right, all he can do is ignore me or say no thanks.


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Registered: 10-27-2003
In reply to: sisfox
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 12:01pm

Throw caution to the wind and go for it!! Your email is perfect...light, fun and flirty, that should get his attention. Good Luck!

Libra

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Registered: 05-09-2005
In reply to: sisfox
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 4:15pm

It really depends if you are seeking a LTR or casual relationships. If the guy truly wants kids eventually, then why get with him, get caught up and then the reason you guys go no further is because he wants kids?? Is your decision only based on right now or would you change your mind re: more kids??

I've done it twice but I'm seeking LTR not buddies. Both guys were like "well it depends" meaning they were willing to hang out with me and see how things go, but I took that to mean they were accommodating me right now but in the long run it would be an issue. Both of these guys were younger than me with NO kids; I may have been flexible if it were an older gentlemen who already had a few. I noticed that some men say "unsure" (when it comes to more kids) so they can still attract younger and older ones.

Nowadays, I chat with guys who have NO MORE KIDS checked.

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Registered: 12-28-2004
In reply to: sisfox
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 4:38pm

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So that's what that means. I often wondered how men especially, could be unsure if they want more kids or not. Of course, I have a niece who is "unsure" but she's like late 20's. At 39+ or so, I would think one would know.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: sisfox
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 6:25pm

I'm not at all flexible about kids. I'm done!

He's divorced and has kids already, so I wonder if he's flexible on wanting more.

It may all be moot - I did email him, he read it, looked at my profile, and no response. Ah well, NEXT.


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Registered: 10-27-2003
In reply to: sisfox
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 7:14pm
His loss!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2005
In reply to: sisfox
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 11:40pm
Maybe he's trying to think of an as clever comeback. Better to try and fail than not try at all.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2004
In reply to: sisfox
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 12:49am
Definately could be the kids thing that he didn't email you back because I know I want children and with any man that says he doesn't want any or is unsure i always delete their winks or emails without thinking twice. This could be because I was in a relationship for almost a year with a man that said he maybe wanted children and then decided 10 months into the relationship that for sure he didn't want any. Kind of a waste of my time. Best to be on the same page with someone if you are looking for a LTR and the good thing about OLD is you can pick and choose the people with the beliefs and lifestyles you want and in other situations you don't know until you ask the person.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: sisfox
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 7:44am
When I see 'not sure' about having kids or more kids, I always take that to mean the probably don't want kids but might change their minds if the situation was right.

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