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Should I wink?
| Wed, 08-24-2005 - 11:00am |
Looking for input:
Found a profile that I really like. The two things that are making me hesitate in contacting him are 1. I'm a little out of his age preference and 2. He has a "yes" in the want children? field.
I'm considering a note along the lines of "hey, I dig your profile, if you can get over the fact that I'm older than you and don't want kids, let's meet."
Comments?


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Why not send the message? It's a long shot, obviously, but you've got nothing to lose, unless you would be upset at not hearing from him or getting a rejection email...but knowing you I don't think that would be the case, would it ;-)?
Sheri
Me? Hurt by rejection?
LOL, no seriously, you're right, all he can do is ignore me or say no thanks.
Throw caution to the wind and go for it!! Your email is perfect...light, fun and flirty, that should get his attention. Good Luck!
Libra
It really depends if you are seeking a LTR or casual relationships. If the guy truly wants kids eventually, then why get with him, get caught up and then the reason you guys go no further is because he wants kids?? Is your decision only based on right now or would you change your mind re: more kids??
I've done it twice but I'm seeking LTR not buddies. Both guys were like "well it depends" meaning they were willing to hang out with me and see how things go, but I took that to mean they were accommodating me right now but in the long run it would be an issue. Both of these guys were younger than me with NO kids; I may have been flexible if it were an older gentlemen who already had a few. I noticed that some men say "unsure" (when it comes to more kids) so they can still attract younger and older ones.
Nowadays, I chat with guys who have NO MORE KIDS checked.
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So that's what that means. I often wondered how men especially, could be unsure if they want more kids or not. Of course, I have a niece who is "unsure" but she's like late 20's. At 39+ or so, I would think one would know.
I'm not at all flexible about kids. I'm done!
He's divorced and has kids already, so I wonder if he's flexible on wanting more.
It may all be moot - I did email him, he read it, looked at my profile, and no response. Ah well, NEXT.
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