Should it bother me that he still goes online?

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Should it bother me that he still goes online?
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Thu, 01-13-2011 - 2:48pm

I posted a similar question before but I don't feel like I was understood enough as the responses were mostly off topic lol. Anyhow, my question is this... I met a guy online a few days ago and so far we have been hitting it off pretty well. We talk on the phone every night and he

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Thu, 01-13-2011 - 4:04pm

Whoa!!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 01-13-2011 - 9:09pm

In order to check to see if he is still on the site, that means that you have to go on the site, right?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2006
Thu, 01-13-2011 - 11:10pm

You're right! Why should i expect him to stop when I still look myself? For me

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Thu, 01-13-2011 - 11:15pm
musiclover12 wrote:

In order to check to see if he is still on the site, that means that you have to go on the site, right?

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 12:40am

Yes, it absolutely did start to drive me crazy and that's why i decided for my sanity that I should just let go, stop playing stalker, and enjoy the ride. I totally understand the whole "if he finds out" thing because I would be creeped out and stop talking to him if it were the other way around. Actually, i do think he has been doing some snooping of his own

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 8:26pm

The snooping thing would really bother me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 9:21pm

I don't think I would bother looking--of course I am not in a relationship but it's just something that can make you crazy.

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 9:55pm

Really? Well that's comforting to know. Like I said before, I decided to stop going on for my sanity lol. I mean, I really like the guy and the fact that I don't have trust for men helped me to become a "snooper". But I realized that i'm not giving this guy a chance by doing that. We're not exclusive yet I'm putting all this pressure on myself about him. One night he said that he was in a meeting and I looked and saw that he was signed on and I was about to dismiss him as a scum bag. But then when i signed on

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 7:34pm

I think probably you are better off not worrying about it.

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Registered: 11-23-2010
Thu, 01-20-2011 - 11:38pm
You haven't even met yet? WAY too early for this to even be an issue. Try 6 months of serious dating! If things work out between you two, after 2 months of dating, then this will be an issue. For now, just relax, enjoy, and keep your options open. I dated a few guys at once before I started seeing my boyfriend.

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