should we be spending more time together
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| Tue, 10-04-2005 - 11:18am |
Okay- all of you know from past posts that I have been dating Bachelor #1 since mid August... we have had about five dates, and number 6 is tomorrow. Now let me just remind you... he has 2 kids from his divorce, who he gets every Tuesday and Thursday and then every other weekend. Now I am a single mom, and the only time my ex get's my son is Saturday and Sunday....
Okay.. here is my question... I feel like I want to spend more time with Bachelor #1, but I feel like our schedules are very conflicting, not to mention our work schedules and he is on call two weekends out of the month.
I don't know how he feels about it, and I know he is a very busy guy, but IS there a way to approach this, or should I just leave things the way they are and just see if he increases the amount of time he makes for me? Saturday evening he volunteered the info that I am the only one he is dating and that he likes me and likes spending time with me. So I feel like that is a very good sign... but at what point do I get to voice what I would like...? (ie. more time together, more communication) Am I moving things too fast?
I would think that we would increase time together and communication, but I just don't see it, and I don't know if I need to casually mention it....
UGH!!! I hate dating!!!!!! LOL!

I don't know the answer, I am hoping someone else has advice.
hmm - good post
ok my situation is exactly the same - except me minus the kids..
he has two kids has them Mon and WED every week and has them every other weekend.
he is on call every 3rd week.. all week long and the weekend.. (same guy LOL. no)
WE started dating in August- like first week in August. We manage to see each other during the off days the weeks he has his kids on the weekends maybe average about 2x a week. This past month the last two weekends he did not have the kids we managed to spend entire SAT night together and early Sun Morning.. i say we average about 2x a week. is it slow heck no!! we have great quality time together talk almost every day or other day and try to get one day in the week together even if it is just a couple hours to see eachother later in the evening. he plans all our dates and they have been wonderful. he is courting me and this is the way it shoudl be in teh beginnign.. i would love more time w/ him but honestly it is going at a good pace we miss eachother and it gives us both time to get our things done so when we are together we have no stressors interuppting us.
it's funny you will just know. i had this same situation last year w/ a guy and it was only 2 x a weeek but the dates/times were different that it didn't feel like al ot..and i use to worry like you are, like it wasn't enough but i think it was the quality of the dates and he always seemed rushed..
i can't explain it but it's a just a feeling you get when you are w/ that person you know is a good fit you know eventually you will spend more time together w/ him and then his kids someday but you don't worry that it doesn't seem like a lot of time now.
also if you know they are planning something to see you again then you don't worry either.
my guy has been out of town 2 weeks comes back thurs so it has been even more difficutl and i am sure he will be seeing his kids when he comes back too but that is ok cuz we have a possible weekend getaway comng up..
I would see what happens for the rest of the month. If the amount of time you spend together hasn't increased by then (or he hasn't at least brought it up), I'd bring it up.
Sheri