Shy Guys

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Shy Guys
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Fri, 10-06-2006 - 10:13am

How do you feel about dating a shy guy? is it a turn off for you or do you prefer this type of men?

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Registered: 04-29-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 10:23am
That's individual - that's like asking do you prefer short, tall, bald, athletic, hairy - whatever kinds of men. For me personality and confidence is HUGE so no, I would not be into a shy guy but that's me not everyone. If your into then go for it - you don't need our approval ;-)

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In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 12:31pm
I think there is reasonable and unreasonable in the definition of "shy". If shy means he isn't quick to ask just anyone out, then I would probably find that quite appealing. But, if a guy is so shy that he can't ask someone out or can't initiate plans without the woman having to do the work, then that would be an eventual turn-off for me. I have met men who I had a hard time deciding whether they were shy or really just backward about life. Some of those same men didn't seem to have a backbone. So, shy I can handle, but a guy who actually comes off kind of "wimpy" is not a turn-on for me.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 1:12pm

Most time, general questions on this board are confused for getting someone's approval.

Why would anyone need approval of people they dont know and who can be different in age, education level, culture, lifestyle, religious belief, liberalism... what they want from life...

I m asking to know what different people think. I personally have always been attracted to shy guys so I m not basing any decision on whatever Hot_mom_24_7_Online answered ;~)

just met many girls who think shy men are more attractive which is something bold and imposing guys need to take note of.




Edited 10/6/2006 8:14 pm ET by juliara2003
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Registered: 04-29-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 1:34pm

Yes, it’s confusing-- agree. Thanks for the clarification.

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Registered: 10-13-2005
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 5:24pm
I think (and this is a new realization) that shy guys can be a little empowering for someone like me who is more on the shy side as well. It forces me to make decisions and voice opinions that maybe I wouldn't have at times. Not that I'm not exhausted by that aspect of a current shy guy sometimes...
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 8:18pm
I dated an extrovert who is always the centre of the universe in dinners, parties...I liked him but at one point I realized I get headaches everytime I m with him. He just does not stop talking and most of the times things I heard already!
I could not continue and for his own best I told him the truth hoping that the next girl he meets wont have headaches. Dont know if he changed :~)
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Registered: 07-03-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 9:23pm
I hate guys who are extremely egotistical and think they are just all that and show it. So over that I would take shy, but some level of confidence is attractive, I am not sure I find myself extremely attracted to the life of the party.