Signed up for EH--already regretting it

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Signed up for EH--already regretting it
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Thu, 10-13-2011 - 8:48pm

I have only tried match & POF and never got too far w/ either one of those--got a few dates but none went anywhere.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 10-14-2011 - 7:34am

I did a free trial about 7 years ago and I hated it because they wouldn't let you specify an age range--and they kept sending me men who were 15 - 20 years older. I've forgotten how it works--don't they send you about 5 guys at a time, and then you can choose to contact them?

But, I hear you. When my three months are up on Match, I'm hanging it up. After almost four years with unsatisfactory results, I just don't have the heart for it anymore. And I know this will most likely mean I will not date at all anymore, which makes me very sad. But I'd rather have no dates than to sit across from another totally inappropriate man I have no interest in. And no, I'm not too picky: I'm just old and men that I would want aren't interested. And no, I'm not looking for a '10.'

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 10-14-2011 - 11:30am

Well you can specify an age range now on EH and then you can also say how important it is to you so age isn't the problem.

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Fri, 10-14-2011 - 3:21pm

I tried it a few years ago and didn't like it.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 10-14-2011 - 3:55pm

The key to that one, I heard from other people, is that you put high importance on age and location and they won't do that.

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Registered: 11-23-2010
Fri, 10-14-2011 - 4:13pm
Well the whole point of EH is to sit back and relax while they do all the work for you! But...these are based on algorithms, not humans who try to match you, so invariably you get someone that is not a good match for you, things that a computer can't match like attractiveness, sense of humor, and other factors. I prefer to have more control and do the picking myself. I rarely contact men first, but I view alot of profiles so my profile gets in their "whos viewed you" for some exposure. I think with any OLD you just have to have patience. Some will have luck, some won't. I am certainly not having much luck either, but I am still going to stick with the free sites. I am hoping there is one frog out there meant for me!
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Registered: 06-13-2007
Sat, 10-15-2011 - 12:38pm

Hang in there!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 10-15-2011 - 3:58pm

My problem is the opposite--no one is contacting me, although it's been less than a week so I can't expect too much.

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Registered: 05-19-2011
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 4:14pm

I felt like e-harmony was too much work and I didn't like not seeing who I was talking to initially, it was weird.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 10:24pm

Well you can see the people, but I agree--I like the opportunity if I feel like it to browse for a while. On match there were literally over 1000 men in my age group in my area.

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Registered: 08-24-2006
Thu, 10-20-2011 - 3:06am
I don't blame him for putting it out there. Better than really getting to like someone only to have them ghost or dump you when they find out. I was honest about having bipolar and taking drugs for in my OLD profile, not because I thought it would make anyone want to date me but because I specifically wanted to weed out those who wouldn't. Interestingly enough, I did get a few emails from guys who specifically said that they liked that about my profile (either that I was honest about it, or that they prefer dating women who understand what it's like because they also have a mental illness).

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