This is Silly

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Registered: 06-18-2003
This is Silly
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Wed, 07-09-2003 - 11:45am
Thanks all for the are we in a relationship replies... you told me what I thought..

So guy that i'm involved with is a the beach with his buddy fishing. He called me monday night. I didn't call him back cause I was out and it was late when I got back. So he called me Tuesday asking if I got his message and why didn't I call him back. Sounded kinda worried and so I explained the situation . He was cool with that and he said to call him because he's only got his work cell phone which he can't really use for personal calls but wants to talk to me. He said are you coming up to see me this weekend .. I said I had plans but he could come down. He said we'd talk. So fine. I decide ok i'm going to call him more. Cause that's what he wants right? I was letting him call me.. trying not to interfer in his boys weekend. So I call him about 9pm last night. Guess what he's drinking. No suprise there boys will be boys. So I talk to him for a bit, he says they are getting ready to go out, blah blah, no women around could I send some over. Then tried to tell me he wasn't going to the bar they were going fishing!!!! Um Ya right. (I think he was joking or too drunk to even try to make a good lie up). So while I tried to blow off the girls comment (his buddy has a GF who I know and they're in a relationship of 3 years) I'm a bit irritated by it. Call it insecurity.. None the less i'd like to talk to him and feel out the sitaution today and talk to him. But i'm scared to call. How can I be scared to call him.. argh. Anways I just wanted to vent.. I think i'm loosing it here today.


Edited 7/9/2003 11:58:09 AM ET by nikkii24

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Registered: 04-16-2003
In reply to: nikkii24
Wed, 07-09-2003 - 1:40pm
Well, Nikki my dear, I think you have justed experienced a class A-1 male syndrome. When in groups of two or more, men tend act as if they were apes coming out of some tree and saying fowl things when they get on the silly juice. Well, I would say you should let this guy know right up front next time, you are needing some clarity here. Just ask him, point blank if you two are an item or not. If you are, then you need to tell him you would appreciate alittle respect when it comes to his drinking, etc. Now, I think he is still thinking you two are not exclusive, just beneficial friends. So, you should get this out in the open and find out where you stand immediately. SO, if you are not...you can move on to someone who can respect you and you wont have to read his mind like this guy. I wish guys werent so complex, but some are. So, I dont know if you want to call him again, but I would wait for him to call me and then I would just ask straight out. Get it off my chest, What is the deal?! Well, goodluck and I am sorry this boy is getting to you. WIsh it were easier. Hugs!

Gail :)

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Registered: 06-18-2003
In reply to: nikkii24
Wed, 07-09-2003 - 2:33pm
Thanks Gail -

I dunno he's all over the board, yesterday he didn't hear from me enough, last night he was a drunken ass, today I called him... and he was cool at best.. but wanted me to check his ebay account for him.. and when I joked that I knew his password he said .."I can just change it". Then said for me to call him tonight or he would call me. He wants me to check his email. He will be calling ME if he wants his email checked.

Why does he have to act like he cares and stuff one minuite and the next he could care less..... I've had enough of that.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nikkii24
Thu, 07-10-2003 - 7:48am
I don't think you should call him more and I do think you should call him back within 24 hours - he has no right to ask why you don't call back right away - that is silly. If his main interest is drinking with the boys, I think you can do better - you don't need all the aggravation that comes with that.