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Wed, 03-22-2006 - 9:32pm
Hi everyone! Well, I did meet someon from match about 1 1/2 weeks ago. He was nice, but his personality and mine just didn't match. Plus, when we met..he looked nothing like his picture. Well, I have another meet this Friday. We talked for the first time last night and it was for three hours. I know many think that it's a sign, but I know me too. I can talk to probably anyone. I guess we'll see. I keep my expectations low after that first meet. My questions is this..I had e-mailed a guy and got no response. Being a bold mood, I decided to wink at him after several days. He e-mailed back that he though we had a lot in common, woul dlove to learn more about and commented that I had a great smile. I e-mailed him back and expressed interest in learning more about him too. Well, I sent the e-mail on Sunday, but have heard nothing. Is it possible he's just playing it cool, or is he probably just a ghost if I can even give him that after only one e-mail? I just don't understand the few men that have e-mailed, expressing interest and then neve correspond again after the initial e-mail. Why express interest and then nothing?? Weird, huh?
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Registered: 05-09-2005
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 8:45am

Yes, it happens. Even the guy you will meet on Friday, you had a 3-hour telephone conversation and after meeting who knows if you will ever see the guy again??

All part of the process of OLD. Remember, most guys are chatting with other people; also have other meets set up, etc. Also people will not necessarily follow your timeframe on when they are suppose to respond. You would fare better about having no expectations and just continue chatting and setting up meets with others.

Good Luck on Friday!!

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 1:06pm
sounds like there are ppl ahead of you in his queue ...Another thing is that when I start communicatng with someone I am extremely interested in, i bump that person to the top of the list. I would give it another day to hear from him and if not, then try not to think of him anymore. I know it stinks but this is just all part of the process i guess. Maybe you could send him another email to show him you are serious (if he is that spectacular) and try to catch his attention. Then for sure if u dont hear back, let that be it.
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 10:04am
Well, I sent a little note Thursday night to that guy. I worded it at the end that wished him well "catching the big one" this summer since he fishes. I figure if he's interested, he'll contact me and if not, at least I don't sound desperate. As for my date, I was pleasantly surprised. It went really well. we had dinner at a nice restaurant and then he asked me if I wanted to go to coffee somewhere else. He definitely expressed interest in getting together again. We'll see. Thanks for the advice.
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 7:52pm
Well, no word from the guy I sent the e-mail, but the other guy I went our with last night called to tell me what a nice time he had and how he opes we can get together again soon. He also asked if he can call me tomorrow. He told me that I can call him anytime I want. I have his home and cell phone number. Personally, I'd rather take it slow and let him do most of the calling in the beginning. The last "serious" relationship I had moved to fast which I think pushed me away.
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 7:57pm

I agree with your approach...it's nice that he said you could call anytime, but there's no need to take him up on it more than once in a while.

Sheri

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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 8:03pm
You know what was alittle creepy last night when we met? We went to a diner for coffee after the restaturant. Well ,the guy that I was involved with and it ended because I was so unsure (I posted about him - went to Vegas, ect.)..he had told me about a song that he thought of me with and it was on in the diner and this new guy's name is the same! You start asking yourself,,,Is this some kind of sign??