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Single but actually Married???
| Fri, 12-01-2006 - 6:32pm |
I'm delurking to ask a question.
Have any of you had the misfortune of getting to know someone through OLD who claimed to be single or divorced, only to eventually find the person was actually MARRIED?
It seems my new "OLD Friend" is actually married (although he claims he's recently divorced). All the signs are there and I've checked our local on-line county court website and there's no sign of an LS or DV anywhere. Go figure.
Any war stories?

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Edited 12/4/2006 9:18 pm ET by rc1999
Thanks for your input.
It seems my gut feeling has coincided with reality. I checked the on-line court site again and while there's no sign of a divorce decree being granted to him, I also haven't heard a peep from him since last Wednesday. It's okay though because at this juncture, I'm nearing total burnout anyway and am weary of "dating".
I have quite a few guy friends (they all live far away unfortunately) and it would be nice to have someone to maybe catch a movie or do Sunday brunch. But things are the way they are and I'm going with the flow.
I love my life, relish being single and right now, I wouldn't have it any other way.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you.
I hope you're able to work things out in a way that will benefit you and your children.
God bless you and hang in there.
Edited 12/5/2006 10:49 am ET by blessed365
That is awful that he would do that to you. I do hope that you are able to get into couples and individual counseling to work through your problems and find the best solution to your problems.
I am not saying this in any way to be mean, but just to understand. What mental state would cause him to create an online profile and then cheat on you? You don't have to say, but I guess to me, that seems like typical cheater behavior/excuses - "Oh forgive me honey, I wasn't in my right mind. I was feeling down about myself and lonely so I decided to take out a personal ad..." Umm, OK. But if that's not what it is or if you'd rather not say, I understand. I guess without context, it just seems awfully forgiving and understanding of you. Thanks
He has been seen for depression, anxiety, adult add, social anxiety...Just depressed low self esteem...the whole thing is very sad! Just wish I could rewind time and somehow just help him and be there for him...Not how I pictured my life! I know I can't and I am sure I will come around quickly to moving on.
Edited 12/5/2006 10:39 pm ET by rc1999
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