Slowing things down
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|Sun, 08-09-2009 - 3:17am|
A guy with whom I've been exchanging e-mail since last Monday is recently divorced. I've never before communicated with anyone whose divorce was final less than three months ago. He is obviously uncertain about the whole dating scene. (He was married for almost 30 years.) I can understand that. I'm still uncertain too.
We've been having good e-mail conversations since Monday of this past week. He is out of town this weekend, but he has kept up the e-mail. He is intelligent, we are interested in a lot of the same things, and he seems like he would be good company. We're talking of meeting next week when he gets back.
My concern is that he is beginning to get too personal. In his initial e-mails (and his profile) he talks about taking it slow, but he isn't saying that any more. I am also concerned that he has started telling me about his bad marriage. I generally respond with something vague and change the topic, but it keeps coming up.
Any suggestions on tactful ways to (a) keep the relationship platonic until he is "over" his divorce and (b)encourage him to stop talking about his ex to me? He is someone I would like to get to know better, but I definitely don't want to get very involved with him right now. It would just be asking for trouble.