Well, I did tonight. It was our second date. He's asked me out again. He's a nice guy. We seem to have a lot in common. My attraction level is so-so. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing. I know I'm holding back. Not ready to jump into anything. He's been separated for 2.5 years (separated=married to me, but I decided to give him a try since he seems sincere that they are completely through, 2nd marriage, big mistake, will be divorced as soon as house sells).
He believes in dating 1 person at a time. Normally I do too, but I'm not ready for that. I will have to tell him that although I'm looking for long term, right now I'm only ready for casual. We seem to be similar in a lot of ways. Chemistry isn't sky high for me... last BF we immediately melted into each other's arms....lot of good that did me.
So, we'll see.....
I think a little caution is a good thing...it is good to take things slow and keep your head> Perhaps the melting thing will develop over time!
And, hey, I'm all for the concept of casually dating more than one guy at a time, but the reality is I can rarely scrape up even one guy to date.
I am a big beleiver that while seperated can mean "jerk who wont admit to still being fully in a relationship"...it can also mean "person stuck in a terrible marriage while the BS gets sorted out". I was the later and it was awful. I am so glad I was given a chance regardless of my status....so glad in fact...that I married him.
Best of luck to you with this new man! I hope you really enjoy your next date!!!!
Hot date? What is that? It's been so long I don't seem to remember anymore ...
Luckily, my life is in a very happy, creative phase right now so I have passions enough to make up for the absence of a significant other.
Have a great week, everyone! :-)