So, this guy send me a wink but he.....

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Registered: 11-18-2003
So, this guy send me a wink but he.....
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Sat, 03-05-2005 - 7:12am

So, this guy sends me a wink but he doesn't have a photo in his profile. I respond by writing, "Thank you for contacting me. Could you please send a photo?" And I include my off-site email address.


He responds with, "I'll send one later." Okay. So I decide to wait.


The next day he writes, "Hey beautiful ...what happened? still want to do tea or coffee or chat on the phone?"


Sigh

 

 

 

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 4:43pm

I think this guy knows full well that he's already contacted me. But he's avoiding the photo issue. I guess he figures that if he stalls long enough I'll forget that I don't know what he looks like and will agree to meet him anyway.


But I've had plenty of repeat offenders contact me. It kills me when I'm contacted by someone with whom I've actually gotten to the phone stage and they don't seem to have any recollection of who I am.

 

 

 

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 5:29pm
agree its shady when guys say "hey beautiful" too soon. or "hey cutie". That is a dealbreakr for me, sounds very fake and tells me the guy is a "sweet talker".
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 6:06pm
I've got that dilemma right now. A guy I winked at on Yahoo is now opening all emails with "Hey Cutie". Yeah, pretty much a turnoff. He seems kinda slick. Well, that is nothing new! Sigh.

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 7:26pm

i don't know why guys think that will make women quiver in the knees - by calling them sweetie/cutie/beautiful. Sounds so lame when its in the beginning.

i give you (and everyone) credit for sticking w/ OLD. I had to give up after about 6 months off/on of it. I couldn't take the weeding through billion of guys who basically seemed to want just a hook-up or they were just looking to rack up as many gals as possible.

Actually I am dating someone now (for the last month) and that was another reason i stopped OLD. but I'm still not sure of him bc of certain issues hes had in the past. He seems to be over them, but I just don't that in a LTR we'd be good together. I guess thats what "dating" is for ! but in the most simple way to explain why I'm still with him is because he makes me laugh and I can pick up the phone at any part of a day and say hi. I don't feel like im intruding, I dont feel like I'm calling too much, and I have never felt like it would be ackward. so its just the simple things I'm finding make dating fun.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 8:30pm
It's totally a different story once a couple start sleeping together or whatever, and start calling each other, "Hi Sweetie" etc., but anyone who says this in the first stage is a turn-off, I agree.
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 10:08pm
Consider yourself welcomed -- and reported.
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 10:18pm

I know - it does feel superficial, but I'd rather get that out of the way.

I got an email from a guy AGES ago - I think it was on lava and he didn't have a pic, so I asked him to send me one. He was HUGE - at least 500 lbs, and that's no exaggeration.

He got all pissy with me because I told him I wasn't interested. Maybe it's bad, but I just can't see myself with a guy that big.


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Registered: 05-16-2004
Sat, 03-05-2005 - 11:42pm
Don't people ever learn that they should pull these shenannigans at a more opportune time...
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 5:32pm

The dude to whom I referred in my original post still hasn't sent a photo.


About an hour ago I was again contacted by a no-photo guy. I simply wrote, "Can you please send me a photo?" He just did. I just saw it. .

 

 

 

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