So, I did email him to give a time

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Registered: 05-27-2005
So, I did email him to give a time
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Mon, 05-30-2005 - 6:15am

The guy that I've been emailing and chatted with on messenger, I emailed two days after our chat and gave a time that we would meet this weekend. He emailed back and agreed with that. I emailed him back the next day to see how his weekend went and suggested we chat on messenger again Thurs, since it's his day off work. He got back to me and said that sounded good and he was looking forward to it. He seems nice enough but you never can tell just by emailing and chatting. So it's Monday now and what I'd like to know is should I wait until Thurs before contacting him again or before that? I was thinking of emailing Wed to let him know what time I'll be on messenger Thurs. I told him it would be after work but not the exact time. What do you think is the appropriate thing to do?

Edited 5/30/2005 7:25 am ET ET by dream_angel2005




Edited 5/30/2005 7:25 am ET ET by dream_angel2005
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Mon, 05-30-2005 - 12:19pm
I personally hate conversig by IM. I do not think it is a very good way to chat or to get to know someone. Why don't you talk on the phone or just meet up? This prolonged IM'ing is not good for either of you and it is leading to this confusion and game-playing of "when should I email him and what should I say?". Get past that and talk to the guy, for heaven's sake!! You even say that you can't tell if someone is decent by email and chatting, what makes you think that you will be able to tell any more with yet another IM chat?

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Mon, 05-30-2005 - 1:36pm
I'm pretty old-fashioned about these things ... so I would say just sit back and let him take the initiative. If he doesn't you'll know that he's just not that into you. And I would watch it with IM too. Sometimes I think we set ourselves up by being too available on IM and it leads to being taken for granted. If I were you I'd stay away from IM. Let him call you and ask you out. That's the way it's done when someone's interested.
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Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 05-30-2005 - 5:25pm
I agree with the last poster. Let him show some initiative. I wouldn't contact him again until the date. He should be the one asking you out and wanting to talk to you.