So I walked the dog past his house...
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|Thu, 09-23-2010 - 2:33pm|
You aren't going to believe this one:
3 years ago I bought a new house. A friend told me that one of my neighbors was a divorced lawyer whose daughter I had met at school. I mentioned on this board that I was walking my dog past his house hoping to meet him, and someone, I think it was HJNTIY teased me about being too passive.
Fast foward...I met him on Match. Wasn't sure it was the same guy at first, but he was going on and on about his daughter. It seemed really awkward but for our first meet I just had him pick me up at the house, I didn't want to pretend I didn't know where he lived! And I told him how I knew who he was. He didn't think it was awkward at all...we actually have many mutual acquaintances. And just as well we didn't meet sooner because he hasn't dated much...his divorce took him by surprise and he just wasn't ready.
Anyway, we went hiking last saturday and I really like him. BUT for our second outing he invited me to a HS varsity volleyball game! His daughter doesn't even play but some of her friends do and he knows others because he still coaches girls travel soccer. I think he is either too wrapped up in his identity as 'friendly neighborhood dad' or he is just trying to present that side of himself because he thinks I'm looking for a step dad for my girls. Third possibility is he's just creepy, but he didn't come across as creepy. I think he is just realizing that his DD is going to graduate next year and leave him all alone.
So I said no thanks on the volleyball--all I DO is go to events with my own girls---and asked if he wouldn't rather do something more grown up? Still haven't heard back...now i have to come up with some fun date ideas so he won't think I was hinting about sex. Although he is nice and intelligent, good conversationalist, I can't say there was a big physical attraction. So I am proceeding with this in a rather traditional manner.
And the best part of it is, I am also corresponding with another very real possibility (a nurse/chiropractor!) so if this all falls apart I have a back up plan.