So new, and feel like giving up already

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Registered: 01-23-2005
So new, and feel like giving up already
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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 7:07pm

I'm spent. I feel like I'm done already with this freakin dating thing, be it OLD or whatever. It's only been like 2-3 weeks and I'm already tired of the scene. The:
1. getting my hopes up
2. waiting for an email
3. either not getting one, or getting a canned hello
4. actually meeting someone and hitting it off (to me anyway), followed by either no contact, or minimal contact, but definitely not as "interested" after the meeting as before
5. did I mention waiting for an email?
6. and goshforbit a phone call....

I AM DONE! DONE DONE DONE DONE DONE! I have lost all hope, and it's way early. What does this mean?

Oh, and by the way, did anyone else find that the email tones got less flirty, and less everything AFTER the first meeting?

*boo hoo* and i really thought we had hit it off

oh well, problem is, i can't bring myself to say NEXT because I just DO NOT want to go through this all over again.....

HOW did you get to be able to deal with the pain of something not working out? and pick yourself up to do it all over again? do you just not have high expectations? does the pain just get easier to deal with the more rejections? does one become hardened to it?

me needs a big hug.... )-:

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Registered: 01-23-2005
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 8:51am

Ya know what? So there's a rule. My first one! If someone gossips about someone else to me during the first meeting, I'm gonna think twice, because that SURELY means that the person is gonna tell some story about ME to the next person.

Think I'm gonna write that down.....

got any more for me to add?

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 9:31am

1. Got kids spaced 10-15 years apart? Ask how many times married
2. "So how long have you been DIVORCED for?" (separated time don't count)

The rest is here:

http://pages.ivillage.com/cl-jhoover21/id68.html

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 11:04am

Here's your big hug.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 11:38am

LOL

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 1:58pm
CGUN - I'm just curious -- how long did you do OLD before meeting R? (Oh, and thanks for sharing your first OLD experience - it's amazing how much most of us learn in a very short time, namely how to lower expectations and grow a thicker skin).
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Sat, 01-29-2005 - 2:46pm
I started in late May/early June when my ex was leaving (I knew he was leaving back in April, and prior to that, I'd contemplated whether or not I wanted to be in the relationship anymore).

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