so pissed

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Registered: 04-22-2003
so pissed
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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:20pm
ahhh. I am so mad. The guy I had a date with last night called me today. I did not like him like he liked me. SO I told him today that I am taking a break from dating and he told me "ok, good luck with all your psycological issues". UGH. now I feel pissed plus guilty.

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Registered: 05-09-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:24pm

I know how you feel but don't internalize it. It amazes me how men try to turn the situation around and make you feel as if you have a problem. There is never a nice way to reject someone. Same thing happened to me via email.

Regardless, I prefer them to think that way -- yeah, it's all my fault! There are some real losers out there, and based upon how he responded, if you would have told him the truth, I'm sure the outcome would have been worse.

NEXT!!!!

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Registered: 04-22-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:28pm
thank you so much for that reply. I have had so much anxiety today from that comment.
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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:35pm

Hi Riese...


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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: riese2002
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:38pm

He probably says that to *every* girl that doesn't like him. Don't sweat it, he's lashing out because if his own insecurities.

One question though, are you really taking a break from dating? If not, won't he see your profile is still on the site and still active, and he'll know you were just saying that to get rid of him?

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Registered: 11-09-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:38pm
American men do not take rejection very well. Rather than say that is cool or ok that you don't like him he says something bad about you to cover up the fact that it is indeed he who has been rejected. When you deal with any American man you must use other methods than direct and honest disposal. You got to do what they as dumb children do. Don't answer the phone. If you do pick it up just act really out of it, evasive, weird, or confused like they do because it is all that they can understand. If you are honest like you were there you just set yourself up for verbal abuse. Such is the nature of dealing with any American male. I hope that you have learned your lesson.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: riese2002
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:41pm
Ack! I hate generalizations. Fine if that is true of men you have met, but there is no way that is true of all American men.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:46pm

When anyone feels the need to slam another human being whether in a dating situation, friend or family it is because they aren’t happy with themselves and it gives them a sense of power over the situation or you (in actuality it’s their own insecurities). You rejected him, you bruised his ego therefore he wanted to make you feel worse then his rejection from you. It takes a person of maturity to say “thank you for letting me know and I wish you luck in your new relationship” “if things don’t work out look me up”—now that would have been classy but instead he was trashy, ha. So remember, don’t get mad, just realize you made the right decision and things that go around in life to come around or something like that, ha!

Also, yes THICK SKIN required for OLD. I’ve had my share of hate mail from certain men I wasn’t interested in – that’s just par for the course. You know who you are and that is all that matters. Also, two wrongs don’t make a right –don’t slam him back (take the high road) – silence is golden in this case.

Ms. Peanut

 
 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:47pm

That's why it's important to *screen* phone calls for a couple days after a bad date, silly ;-)!!!!

Sheri

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Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:48pm
I agree, I've turned down a lot of men who handled it with class. Such as thank you, you're a wonderful woman and I hope you get everything you deserve - more often then not. Once in a while yes you get the sour grapes like these jokers who clearly need therapy ha!
 
 
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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 5:48pm

hmpft. I guess people sometimes just feel they have to try to hurt you back. It's just stupid.

Sara

 

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