so pissed

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Registered: 04-22-2003
so pissed
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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:20pm
ahhh. I am so mad. The guy I had a date with last night called me today. I did not like him like he liked me. SO I told him today that I am taking a break from dating and he told me "ok, good luck with all your psycological issues". UGH. now I feel pissed plus guilty.
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Registered: 08-13-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 08-20-2005 - 8:21am
You might have got a lot farther with a positive "the 'burbs are great too" approach. He winked at you first - do you not think that he would have gone out of his element to meet you?
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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 08-20-2005 - 8:25am
I think he might have gone out of his element to meet me.

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Registered: 08-13-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 08-20-2005 - 8:28am
He winked at you first. You didn't even give him a chance and I think you may be misjudging him. As is the case with OLD, very easy to dismiss people.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 08-20-2005 - 8:50am
I sent him a reply to clarify I did not intend for my email to sound negative.

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Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 08-20-2005 - 9:29am

I thought his reply was awfully strong, too. I would have wanted to be sure he was okay with the lifestyle difference as well. I don't think judgment enters into it.

Whatever, for sure --

amjay

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 08-20-2005 - 9:43am
Exactly.

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Registered: 08-13-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 08-20-2005 - 10:42am
I was thinking it was 1 to 1....lol.
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Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 08-20-2005 - 10:56am

Your POV interests me. I keep reading over the op and can't see where she was wrong.

It may be because I don't believe many guys actually read profiles, so when there is a glaring issue I bring it up right away. To save time, I guess.

Funny story: a much younger guy (35) winked at me and when I emailed him back I asked if he didn't think I was too old for him. He emailed back to let me know that in actual fact he was 51 but felt much younger. Oh really?? Good luck with that, buddy. I don't like to be tricked.

What's your take on that one?

amjay

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Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 08-20-2005 - 11:47am

nevermind.

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Registered: 08-13-2005
In reply to: riese2002
Sat, 08-20-2005 - 11:58am

I agree with ya on that one. That's crap to say you're one age on a profile and then to reveal you're not later. Part of what makes OLD a joke. As if we need another reason to be jaded! Navigating in real life is getting to be less of a crapshoot than online dating.

As for FA's response to her wink - I just think she shot him in the foot before he had a chance to get in the door. Already had it in her head that he wasn't going to go anywhere near the suburbs - so why bother? I say he winked - give him the benefit of the doubt that he read the profile and figure that yes indeed he's willing to meet someone outside of the city.

Winks are a dime a dozen these days. I take them more seriously than I did when I first started. I guess I figure it takes a whole lot for me to wink at someone so maybe they feel that way too?