So Sad
Find a Conversation
So Sad
| Wed, 03-30-2005 - 11:12am |
I went on the coffee date this past Saturday with a guy I met online from my area. I have previously posted a message about him. He is very shy but he seemed like a really nice guy and we seemed to have a lot in common. Well, we met and talked off and on for 2 hours at a coffee shop. I say off and on because there were some lulls in the conversation because he has a hard time coming up with things to say. We did talk about quite a bit though and laughed some. It seemed to have gone well, to me anyway. He told me that he already met someone in person from online a few months ago but it didn't work out. He asked if I wanted a drive home so I said yes. The drive was a short one and it was pretty quiet. Before I got out, I thanked him for the coffee but never said anything else, probably should've though.
Anyway, the next day I called him because I was anxious to see how he thought it went. I asked him how he felt about me but he didn't say anything. Remember he is shy. I then asked him if he wanted to get together again, maybe this weekend to do something and he said he did and asked me if I did and I said, "yeah I do". I was a little nervous asking him this so I just told him he could call me sometime this week and we could make plans for the weekend. That was Sunday, it's now Wednesday and I haven't heard back from him at all. I don't know what to do now. He stressed that he was an honest person and extremely trustworthy and that's how I took him to be also. What would be the right thing to do? Would e-mailing him be wrong or phoning again? I just don't understand why he's doing this. He didn't seem to be that type of person at all.
Anyway, the next day I called him because I was anxious to see how he thought it went. I asked him how he felt about me but he didn't say anything. Remember he is shy. I then asked him if he wanted to get together again, maybe this weekend to do something and he said he did and asked me if I did and I said, "yeah I do". I was a little nervous asking him this so I just told him he could call me sometime this week and we could make plans for the weekend. That was Sunday, it's now Wednesday and I haven't heard back from him at all. I don't know what to do now. He stressed that he was an honest person and extremely trustworthy and that's how I took him to be also. What would be the right thing to do? Would e-mailing him be wrong or phoning again? I just don't understand why he's doing this. He didn't seem to be that type of person at all.

Pages
>>I still want to talk to him so bad and these boards don't help much at all. Some people say I should call him and others say not to. I'm going to go crazy with all of this! I still feel so very, very bad. I don't know what to do.<<
If you feel like crap, that's a pretty good sign that whatever you're doing now ISN'T WORKING. Therefore, stop it.
Look, you've made yourself available to him, right? There's no question that you would go out with him if/when he asks, right?
What more can you possibly do than that? Do you want to somehow talk him into going out with you? I would HATE to be seeing someone who had to be talked into dating me!
If he's interested, he'll contact you, and ask for a date. If he's not, he won't. Pretty simple stuff. Either way, you need to live YOUR life and be happy in YOUR skin and do the things that YOU like. Living for someone else sucks and doesn't work.
Sometimes I don't get women! It is so blantant that this guy has no interest in seeing her. Why would she even bother letting him have her energy as to wondering why he will call? She should put her energy into something more constructive.
As for not knowing what boards to trust....since this board is related to dating...I pretty much think these folks are experts.
That is all I have to say about that!
Edited 4/1/2005 2:44 pm ET ET by truewild1969
http://tickers.ticke
I've been bewildered by this thread.
You met a guy. you didn't really hit it off. He didn't call. Obviously, HE didn't think you it it off, either. Why WOULD he call you? Since then, you've turned it into this HUGE complicated thing. It's not. You two didn't really like each other. But now you're talking about how you can "help him come out of his shell" and whether "he'll be alone for the rest of his life?"
HELLO???? REALITY CHECK. Good grief. Move on.
Pages