So tired of men's online games
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| Sun, 11-27-2005 - 12:13pm |
I winked at a guy last weekend, and the next day, he winked back. I e-mailed him my real e-mail addy, thinking that since he only winked back, and didn't e-mail, that he might not be a paying member. Two days later, he sends me this e-mail through Match (so he was a member afterall):
"Hey i just wanted to let you know that i got your e-mail. since it's been a day or so i thought i would drop you a line to let you know im kind of busy this week, im tring to move before it gets real cold out. Incase you thought you lost my interest or something. So when i get some time, when its not working on midnight I will sit down, and let you know about me. I really do look forward to chatting with you. Thanks Matt"
OK, cool, that was nice of him. It was Wednesday by this time, so I thought the whole Thanksgiving thing would put a crimp in it, too, so I e-mailed him back and said that it was no problem, that I really liked his profile, and that I'd be around when he got settled in, just to e-mail me when he got the chance.
So Thanksgiving came and went, and now it's Sunday, and I haven't heard from him yet...and I've caught him showing Online Now! a couple times that I've been on Match.
So why bother winking back and sending that nice e-mail if he had no intentions of actually e-mailing me? (This was the really cure guy that I posted that I thought he was way too cute for me and that nothing would ever work out--hmmm, didn't need hindsight on that one, huh?)
And a similar thing happened with another guy that I winked at on the same day. He winked back, I gave him my real addy, the next day he e-mailed my Yahoo account, I e-mailed him back, he hid his profile, the next day he e-mailed me again (after he hid his profile), so I e-mailed him back, and that's been 2 days ago and I haven't heard anything since.
GRRR!!! It's all nothing but games...I don't know why I even bother...

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OK back to your topic - yes I've had the same thing, I have given my number out this past month to a few guys who are like 'great, I'll call you tonight' then a week goes by, they write 'do you still want to talk' and I say yes, the ball is in your court you have my number then disapear.
OK, fact, these guys are dating just like you are. So my advice is yes quality vs quantity however meet or correspond with a few, it is a NUMBERS game. However, the good news is "it only takes ONE" yes ONE and you will find him but just now right away more than likely.
So, no expecations with any of these guys seriously. Pretend they are just fans of yours trying to get a date and they'd be lucky to meet you out and the right guy will move mountains to be with you. Even after you meet a great guy out and have a fabulous date or two anything could happen, yes he could disapear so again enjoy the journey and keep the faith that one day sooner rather than later you will connect with someone mutually. If you're guessing or analzying he's NOT your guy, early stages will be effortless that much I do know.
So laugh and think, poor guy, he missed out on a great gal oh well NEXT and bring um on!!!
Ms. Peanut
It might not be games.
In my experience, when a guy says he will write more later, 90% of the time that is the last time you hear from him. I can't explain it to you - I don't know who these people are and I never encountered them prior to OLD. Weird.
It helps if you take things more lightly early on with OLD - less aggravation for you. Sending a shamrock your way!
Same thing has happened to me numerous times.
Definitely.
Just takes one decent man....true.
However, what if that one decent man STILL isn't the right one for you? LOL!
My latest ex was a wonderful man, still a wonderful friend. We just didn't work compatibility wise enough to get married. My parents still mourn his loss, though. LOL! It's funny how they still ask me about him.