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so why am I feeling depressed today
| Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:27am |
for some reason I'm feeling kinda down about my second date with that guy the other night. It's taken me two days to feel like this but I'm disappointed I guess. I know there were red flags but he was a nice guy, why does he have to have ex-girlfriend issues. It just sucks. I want someone to feel that way about me. Someone who can't get me out of their mind. I don't know. I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself.

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I know you already know this but, from personal experience, don't bother with him. He's out there to "forget" about her. You're just going to be someone to keep him company.
I've been doing this for the last two years and I'm real close to calling it quits. I guess I didn't know what I was getting into at the beginning.
OMG I'm right there with you! I'm having a depressed day too. ):
HUGZZZZZZZ,
Jayme
>>I know there were red flags but he was a nice guy, why does he have to have ex-girlfriend issues.<<
He has those issues because he IS a nice guy.
If that makes sense.
See, the fact that he's still got some feelings, that he's emotionally tied to her... it's not a good thing for you, but it DOES indicate that he's a guy who can form an emotional bond with someone. It's not all bad; it means that he can care about someone, be into someone, and so forth.
It stinks that he is having trouble cutting the cords, but we all have different timetables on that one. Some people can be ready to move on within a few weeks, some people within a few months, some take years.
So while he's not ready now... you never know. You might bump into him several months or a year down the road, and you'll remember that he was a pretty decent guy who seemed like a good prospect only with some "ex" issues... and then you'll talk to him and it'll be obvious he's over them and ready for a relationship.
Then again, odds are that won't happen. But you never know. ;)
donna...AND ALL...
Pianoguy thinks this is "one of those kinda days" when a lot of
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I agree with that. I can't wait to get home, get in my jammies, and just be alone. I would much rather be by myself when I'm feeling blue. Too bad that right after work, I have a 3-hour class to go to, so my mopefest won't really get going until 9pm. Who knows, maybe by then my mood will lift some.
Hope everyone has a great weekend!
Holly
I agree to a certain extent. Which makes me wonder just how much of that book "He's Just Not That Into You" comes into play. Books like that are so cut and dried I guess.
I think what bothers me about this particular situation is this: If he's still emotionally tied to her, WHY IS HE OUT THERE TRYING TO DATE??
Dating purely for the reason to get someone ELSE out of your head seems self-centered and selfish. (And men complain that many women are bitter - duh.) If he wants company, why not get a dog or a cat? If he wants sex, why not visit one of those "massage" parlors? And if you're THAT messed up, get some therapy. But why bring someone else into your misery only for the sake of keeping you company?
I bring this up because this is the sort of situation I've been dealing with for the last two years. Met a guy, said he was "over her," and turns out he wasn't. The red flags flew. Unfortunately I wasn't experienced enough in this matter to notice them. I know better now.
pianoguy...
You said it, bro!! I had one of the worst days in a long time. Starting with computer problems for 2 days with deadlines looming, to returning from lunch with a new hair cut and having a guy LAUGH at me and tell me I should sue my barber!!! I really, really needed to hear that.
Anyway, all's good. When the going gets tough, a girl calls her dad for a pub night!! And there's no frigging way I'm wearing a hat!! The Style Police can KMA.
amjay
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