Some Guys Online Can't Spell!

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Some Guys Online Can't Spell!
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Sat, 02-03-2007 - 10:17am

Hi! I know I've seen someone else on here post about this very same thing and I'm going to bring it up again, because I just can't believe how awful some of the guys spell, especially on e-Harmony. Yes, I may even spell a word wrong in this post, but you better believe if I want to impress someone online, I'm going to check all my spelling. On e-Harmony if they can't even capitalize the first letter of their name, then I'm really not too interested. And then when I start reading the profiles on e-Harmony half the words in their profiles are spelled wrong.

Does anyone else get really turned off by this? To me it says a guy isn't really trying to put his best foot forward and just expects you to write him, even though he doesn't care if his profile makes sense.

I know I'm probably being too picky, but was curious to see what everyone else thinks.

Thanks!

Michelle

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 5:49pm

Anything can work. And making contacts through e-harmony is better than not making contacts at all. It's just that for some of us, some services might work better than e-harmony.

It's sort of like where to meet guys. I know a woman who met her husband when she was wheeled into the emergency room with a broken leg (or something like that). He was there with someone else who'd needed the emergency room and for some reason they got to talking while her gurney waited to be wheeled wherever. She was with painkillers and probably didn't look great, but he was interested enough that he came to see her the next day when he came to see the person he'd come in with. The rest is history.

I don't recommend breaking your leg to go to the emergency room to meet guys though. ;)

Elsa

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 12:47am

What bothers me more (although spelling is a big one) is when they send a message like,

'hey wanna chat?'

I'm sorry but it's going to take more than that to get a response out of this girl.

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Registered: 01-25-2007
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 1:19am

What I found about eHarmony was that my expectations were less realistic than with other sites. I guess I felt that if I took the time to answer all those questions, some guy took all that time to answer all the questions and the computer or fate or whatever determined we were a good match for each other, then indeed we SHOULD be a good match for each other. Buzz! Wrong!

I only met a couple of guys when I was on. I'm not sure how realistic their expectations were, either. The first man wanted someone who was as into fitness as he was. Since that was his priority, I wonder why he didn't try looking for a woman at a local gym or the Y in his community. He determined that I wasn't "fit enough" for him and nexted me. His loss! The second man was very sweet but lived in another state. After a week or two of intensive emails and a phone call or two, he told me he couldn't handle a LDR, so he nexted me as well. Again, a little unrealistic to say you're willing to look further away than you really and truly are.

I think eHarmony probably works best for persons in densely populated areas. Especially if you're specific in wanting or not wanting certain traits (the must have and can't stand lists) it's hard to find really compatible matches unless you're willing to try a LDR.

While cleaning out my desk this afternoon, however, I noticed something I had saved and printed---the results of my personality inventory from eHarmony. My fiance (whom I met on Match) fits nearly every criterion perfectly! So that was kinda cool. But you know, there's a lot more to a person than just what's in his/her profile or the results of some personality test. It seems that we find new things about each other every day. I just learned this past weekend that he doesn't mind chick flicks! (I am SOOOOO glad he didn't put that in his profile because every woman on Match would have been after him) :-)

BTW, the DeVinchy guy from eHarmony also didn't have any education past high school. I value education and learning and I wanted someone who had at least tried college and had been intellectually stimulated throughout his life. I also specified educational level from "some college" to post-doctorate. I just am not sure he and I would have had too many deep, thoughtful conversations together.

Moogie

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