someone not into you but you are into that person

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Registered: 01-24-2011
someone not into you but you are into that person
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Sun, 03-13-2011 - 9:15pm

It took me a year of online dating to find someone that I was really into. As the story goes, he did not feel any chemistry except physical chemistry whatever that means.

Unrequited love hurts and I am still feeling reeling from that experience.

I am wondering how common is my experience?

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Registered: 10-16-2006

You don't mention how long you dated...or how involved you got.

I can relate, of course. I have been doing OLD for three years now. I don't meet that many men (relatively small dating pool, many unappealing men). I met a guy two years ago that I felt on the fence about, but would have definitely gone out with if he had asked. He never did, although he emailed me several times after our meeting (confusing to me) and I have seen him on occassion at different venues in these last two years. I wish he would ask me out! But I wouldn't say it's unrequited love in my case--I don't even know him well, so who knows how it would really play out.

But yes, it can be painful to want someone who doesn't want you. But I think it helps to look at it as you are just not a good fit for each other, and that a better fit will come along.

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 10:09am

But I think it helps to look at it as you are just not a good fit for each other, and that a better fit will come along.

Thanks Floridagirl, these words really comforted me.

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Registered: 02-23-2010

Can you give us more information about how long you've known him..etc.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I have to laugh a little about the age thing (not about your problem) since I am 53 and so often I'll see guys my age and their desired age range starts off at 20 yrs younger than them.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
misslynn76 wrote:

It took me a year of online dating to find someone that I was really into. As the story goes, he did not feel any chemistry except physical chemistry whatever that means.

Unrequited love hurts and I am still feeling reeling from that experience.

I am wondering how common is my experience?

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Registered: 10-02-2003

I feel your pain!

sooooobig
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Registered: 11-07-2007

The first guy that I met online I was really into I thought.