Someone tell me to stop!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Someone tell me to stop!!!
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Sat, 05-28-2005 - 8:12am
I'm overanalyzing already.... about the guy I had dinner with on Monday. We had such a great time!! he emailed me when he got home saying he'd like to get together again soon. He texted me the next day and called and left a message. We've IM'd briefly just to say 'hi, how you doing' a few times and he's always very complimentary of me.....
ANYWAY...my question/problem is: he said Monday he might be going to Arizona this weekend so when I talked with him on Wed night he said 'no' he wasn't going, he was going to do work about his house, so I sent him an email saying I'd like to see him either Sunday or Monday (my son will be with his dad), then he replies that he'd LOVE to see me too but there's a chance he's flying to Arizona Saturday and coming back Sunday, so he said maybe Monday?...I replied that would be great, let me know. Well, I was chatting with him last night and he said he was picking up his dog from his parents house (they were taking care of the dog while he was in Philly Thurs)..so if he's getting his dog back then he must not be going out of town....I know...I know ... I'm obsessing and making too much of it...
BUT..he told me he was tired of doing the chasing with women and wanted an agressive one!! So, I'm trying..I don't know..I'm confused. I'm trying not to think about it.
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Registered: 01-31-2004
Sat, 05-28-2005 - 9:50am

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I would let him do the chasing!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 05-28-2005 - 12:25pm
well, I talked with him this morning... found out he's seeing 2 other people...he's concerned about the distance with me (he lives 1 1/2 hr away)....I wish I hadn't gotten my hopes up....I don't know what to do now....
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Registered: 09-18-2004
Sat, 05-28-2005 - 1:05pm

I am sory Donna I know it's difficult. at least he was honest and did not continue to string you along or not call you .. he told you and now you can move on to next.

i had a confusing experience myself. I met a guy not OLD tho as I am taking a break from that. But met a guy he came out w/ some of us and we kind of hooked up/talked. he wanted to take me out alone, on a SAT for drinks. he never called until Sat at 8:44 which at that time i went out.. I returned his call the next day via email and told him tht i was sorry i msised his call but also I thought we had plans and maybe i misunderstood. He humbly apologized in a return email right away and said lets definitely reschedule. He then calls me Tuesday and leaves me a message , on vm saying I haven't heard from you? and just calling to say hi. So I return his call that same day and said hope to hear form him soon and nothing?? So I am confused, wondering if he got my message and what happened? why he never returned my call, I find it very bizarre after he seemed sincere w/ his time w/ me and wanting to see me and then apologizing. and his phone call. I will run into him again as we have events we go to . i thougth of calling or email him to see if he got my message but i am not sure if that would be chasing.

dating is tough.

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 05-28-2005 - 1:18pm

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L-e-a-r-n. Life is beautiful, but sometimes it really bites. You just have to suck it up and go on.

And I'm sorry, Donna, but I must say this: why did you act like an OLD newbie when you know better? How many times do you need to be advised to cool your jets over a guy until you have passed the getting-to-know-you stage (this takes at least 2 months)????

My dear, the disappointments are going to add up and bring you down if you don't start taking better care of your heart!

Your penance is to perform at least 2 random acts of kindness this weekend. Cheering others up always helps to bring me out of my self-indulgent doldrums.

amjay

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 05-28-2005 - 2:43pm
I know, I know...I fell back into "relationshiping" and not "dating"!!!!! But he seemed more into me at first so I started getting excited about him. I'm not writing him off yet, but I've got to get my head back on straight. I don't have anyone else in my realm of dating opportunities...and I hadn't had a date since Feb. I think.....so I just got alittle overly anxious. We'll see!
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Registered: 10-17-2004
Sat, 05-28-2005 - 9:33pm
It's so easy to intellectually know not to get your hopes up, but easier said than done. I'm sorry....I've been there and I get a little better at it each time.