Something driving me nuts
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| Sun, 01-08-2006 - 8:34am |
Ok, just for the record, I'm a white woman. Now, I have a LOT of friends of different races, & I don't think of myself as racist. However, I admit that I have only been attracted to white men. Just like some people like cowboys, thin girls or asian women...I just don't find men of other races physically attractive.
So, when I put my preference on these sites as "Caucasian" why on earth am I getting so many Black & Arab men writing to me? Do they not read?
I admit that I was once guilty of not noticing that a guy who caught my eye had "blonde only" as his preference. I caught it after I wrote to him. I really found it interested that some men still won't date a non-blonde or non-redhead or whatever since hair color is so changeable anyway. But, at least I don't go writing to guys who I notice only look for the slim/slender chicks since I am not, nor will I ever be, a waif.
So, why are these guys so obviously not reading?
UGH....just a rant!

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I've been on both sides of this fence... I've had guys email me who don't meet any of my criteria and I figure they're just looking at the picture and not reading the profile, something I'm guilty of as well at times. I've also winked at someone whose criteria I didn't meet just to see if there was a shot. And at times, there were.
I tend to think that they are probably going by the motto 'nothing gained, nothing lost.' So what harm is there in casting your line in the water?
I think they do it just to see if they can wear you down and you'd possibly want to go out with them.
My profile says I am looking for a white or Latin guy who is Christian. I had one guy IM me last week who turned out to be black and Muslim. Fine, but when I told him (NICELY) that he wasn't what I was looking for and that I wished him luck, he proceeded to call me racist and narrowminded, and some other names that aren't allowed here. :-) Funniest part was, when I looked at HIS profile, I didn't even meet his requirements.
What a surprise...men not reading profiles!!! I'm shocked, just shocked!!!
That's what the "delete" key is for.
Sheri
Same with the distance thing.....and age gap.
It is disappointing. So many emails/winks go right out the window.
I read guy's profiles and I will still wink at someone that says he is looking for a woman 5'2" or taller even though I'm only 5'0".
People will always try their luck. These preferences are not always cast in stone.
You are advertising your availability on the www.
What do you expect?
Edited 1/9/2006 12:28 pm ET by dvlmaycare
People will always try their luck. These preferences are not always cast in stone.
I didn't think that those drop down menus were preferences. I considered them dealbreakers - if I didn't consider one of them a dealbreaker (I don't care what sign a guy is, for example), I used the "tell you later" option or something.
So if a person was one inch below or above your height range, or 9 months outside of your age range, that's a deal breaker?
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