Sometimes it just seems hopeless...

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Registered: 05-15-2004
Sometimes it just seems hopeless...
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Thu, 05-19-2005 - 10:07am

...even though I'm trying hard to have a positive attitude.

The last few women who I have contacted on Yahoo Personals have sent back the canned response "Thanks, but I'm taking a break from dating for a while". My timing must be awful... after all, these women have active profiles up on a dating site, yet I guess they decide to "take a break" at just the time I contact them.

Sarcasm aside, though, I understand that it's really just a polite way of saying "not interested". I'm sure I could go back a week later and see that these women are still active.

I think I get most discouraged because online dating is *designed* to make it easy to meet people. That's the whole purpose of it all. All the women who have profiles on the sites are presumably available and are looking to meet nice men. So, when there is a lack of success in the OLD world, it makes me feel like any other means of meeting someone will even be more difficult (like a bar or club or grocery store, etc). Does anyone else feel like this sometimes?

Eric

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sat, 05-21-2005 - 9:31pm
Well, aren't you a sly one? How long were you going to keep this to yourself?

 

 

 

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Sat, 05-21-2005 - 9:42pm
Announcing these things online is typically the jinx. Expect that I'll be retracting my "one month" statement in a week and complaining about the state of American Woman and how all they want is Adrian Paul lookalikes....
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sat, 05-21-2005 - 10:03pm
Funny. At once point I told myself that if I met someone online and things seemed to be going

 

 

 

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Registered: 09-18-2004
Sat, 05-21-2005 - 10:32pm
yeah i am afraid I don't like to talk about new ones for fear of jinxing it.. of course it happened again i talked and jinxed.. but how can you not be excited and tell someone anyone!!!
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 05-21-2005 - 11:34pm

I'm delurking to critique (I was curious!)


First- I would have clicked on your picture, no question about that.

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Registered: 05-15-2004
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:23am

Thanks very much for the honest critique. You and lg both made some helpful suggestions.

The black & white picture was originally that way, so I can't change it back. I know what you mean about Match messing up pictures. The other one is more full-body but they cropped it some. I still need to add a candid shot and a better full-body shot.

I was amazed when I re-read my profile at how right you are about the sports thing. I went way overboard on that. I will defintely get rid of a lot of that. I guess I was always trying to stress that I like to *play* sports, not really watch them (I was trying to avoid a woman thinking I'm a couch potato who watches football & baseball all day). You're right though, I can see how a woman might take all that as a negative. I need to add in some other interests as well.

The body art thing - lol - that's one of those Match questions that I think if you don't answer it defaults to "other"? I need to change that to "none".

Thanks again for helping me out. :-)

Eric

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:30am

That's my problem. I always swear I'm not going to say anything until we've been dating for at least a month, but inevitably I blab to someone. Not only does it seem to jinx everything, but it's annoying to have people ask after you've been dumped "So, you still seeing that guy?" "Um, no... let's move on."

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Registered: 09-18-2004
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 8:10pm

ERic,

I just reviewed your profile and have to agree w/ others to much sports!!! YOu would not be on my list of men to date because I don't see anything in common/compatibility w/you based on what you have written?(except the beach and travel part )

Under what to do fun: you write- sports, sports, sports, what kind of women are you looking for or man for that matter?/ LOL< I am joking.. you know that..:)

but seriously Eric- what do you like to to do for fun w/ a partner and by yourself? W/a lady friend? think of it that way??

do you like to dine out/travel? etc. etc.. I think a woman is looking for a partner she can bond w / on all levels and wants someone w/ some of the same interests to share. Not saying you will have 100% compatibility but honestly if a man is that much into sports it would be huge turnoff and would not select your profile because of it. I am sure there are some women that totally get into sports but too much of it and not any other interests maybe part of the reason you are not getting a lot of hits.

try changing that up a bit and putting more things in there.. maybe spice it up w /some humor too .. women love humor!

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 9:42am
Oh yeah. I LOVE the towel pic.


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Registered: 02-15-2005
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 9:48am

Oh dear God.

I am going to have to invest heavily in monitor cleaning products.

Once again - diet coke spewage.