Sometimes you just gotta laugh...

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Sometimes you just gotta laugh...
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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 12:58pm

I posted yesterday in the roll call about my last OLD meet 2 weeks ago, and how the guy hadn't called (which I was ok with, as I was only somewhat interested).

Well, he called last night...I didn't recognize the number so didn't pick up...he just left a vague "hey, we haven't talked in a while so I thought I'd call" message.

I went out to dinner with two of my closest guy friends shortly after getting his message and remarked to them that after 2 weeks, the message might as well have said, "hey, none of the other women I was meeting have panned out and I've got nothing going on for the weekend so I'm calling you as a backup plan to see if you're desparate enough to call me back". They agreed wholeheartedly.

Needless to say, I won't be calling him back but the cluelessness of some people just floors me!

Sheri

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 2:20pm
That's exactly what I would think if someone called me after 2 weeks that whomever they had lined up that they thought were so much better than me must not have worked out. LOL
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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 2:22pm

And you do love your opinion.....


I'm not sure what you mean by this.

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 2:23pm

If and when I get to the dating stages of OLD, I think I will expect a pretty fast request for a second date or I will assume the person is not interested. That is the way it always was without OLD when I have been asked out.

Sara

 
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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 2:53pm

Of COURSE you can share your opinions, I was just commenting on something you said.

And if she wasn't that intersted what's the big deal?

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 2:54pm

I agree. 2 weeks with no contact at all, email, phone calls or IM's than I would just think no interest.

But i also agree with kae in that I would take the initiative after a few days to email, call or IM myself, I rarely always wait for the man to do all the work. Of course I'd do that if I was interested, it doesn't really sound as though sheri was all that interested in him anyhow. So no harm no foul.

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 3:03pm
It isn't a big deal.

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 3:27pm
Yep, I got a great laugh.!
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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 4:41pm

And you are so right to think that.

A guy that DOESN'T play games will call you ASAP. He wants to make sure your not out with some other guy falling for "that dude" when you could be out with him..He will NOT wait two full weeks, incommunicado, to call you.

If you respond and go out with him just realize you are probably a backup plan (and when I say "you" I am being general.)

GM

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 4:52pm

I respectfully disagree. Why do you have to be #1 right off the bat? Isn't that why it's called dating?

If you have a great time on a date and he doesn't call right away or even within the week that automatically means he's not interested? I can understand that to a point but if you're dating a lot as some do, it may be hard to keep up or you may be seeing what floats to the top which takes time. I used to do OLD that way. I booked myself for every night one week (I will never do that again...lol...I was new and excited) and when I'd have a moment, I'd think about who I'd like to see again. It's just another way to do it and maybe guys have always done it this way - OLD or not.

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 5:04pm

My point was..

If a guy is interested in you he will make an attempt to at least touch base. Most guys will ask you out for a second date while on the first if they want to see you again. We are talking TWO WEEKS here. Most guys are very "black and white" when it comes to their attraction level. Either they are attracted to you or they are not. If they are..they act.

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