Speaking of LDRs

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Speaking of LDRs
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 10:44am

15 yrs ago I was travelling and met someone. We clicked immediately. For the next month we were together daily. Our friendship was platonic but the chemistry between us was undeniable.

At the end of the month we parted ways and eventually we each went home. He lived on the U.S. West coast and I lived on the Canadian East coast. Several months later I went to visit him for a week. We took things up half a level - beyond "just friends" but not too beyond, if you know what I mean. Then I went back home.

He wanted to see if we could try a LDR but I said no. He was leaving for Asia in a few months and I was staying in Canada. We both had independent lives and we were both so young. It seemed silly to try and make any kind of commitment to each other IMO. But I said that I had no problem keeping in touch. (Back then there was only snail mail, lol).

We kept in touch for a short time but then months went by without any word. In the meantime, I left Canada and moved overseas. Years (maybe 5 years) went by and one day out of the blue, I got a postcard from my American friend. Somehow, he had found me. By this time he was living in the U.S. again. We were both single, never married and no kids. We joked that we were probably destined to end up with each other.

We continued to keep in touch for several months - this time via phone/email. I then moved back to Canada and as it turned out, although he was still in the U.S. he eventually moved to the East coast as well. So while we were still quite far from each other - we weren't as far as we used to be. We planned a meet one day - but then he backed out at the last minute. After our failed planned meeting he sent an email but I never responded to it. I ghosted. That was about 6 years ago.

Last night in chat we were talking about LDRs. When I went to bed I remembered my American friend, which was strange because I hadn't thought about him in ages.

This morning I checked my email. Guess who wrote me an email asking if I remember him.

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 10:54am
OMG!!!!!
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 11:03am

Wow, that's so cool! What amazing timing! Where is he now? I hope you are planning to write back to him???

Sheri

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 11:12am
Wow, jk!!!

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 11:14am

He's still on the U.S. east coast. There's actually someone on this board who lives in the same state and works in the same profession. Wouldn't it be funny if they know each other? I think I'm going to email that poster and ask.

Yes. I do plan on writing back. I just need to let this sink in a little first.

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 11:46am

Wow, that's too cool. And that's just the kind of story that great romances have! Wishing you the best...

Holly

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 11:52am

Hiya,

Never underestimate the power of Karma--and this sounds like a case study on that!!! I always feel that when something happens this way, God is telling you to give it a try; what will it hurt?

You know the old: "if you love something, let it go..."--wayyyy Hallmak-ish, I know, but same happened with Tall Man and I--not as cool/deep-dish as yours :) But...he had been in a r'ship for 8 months, he needed to go Back, even tho he had broken up with her, she kept constant contact, so he felt compelled to be fair, and give it the 'one last try' She requested, out of respect. Gotta love that and we had not met yet, anyway, just chat/email/phone convos and made a date, which was broken, for that reason. About 3 weeks later, I had moved on, dating 3 men, and Bam! Tall Man returns. Since Date 1, this has been What I was built for, and he feels the same.

So, good luck to you, and Do keep us posted!! Letting it sink in is Very smart, good for you!

truly,
Cupcake

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 12:08pm
How exciting! I imagine it was quite a surprise to hear from him, so I totally agree about letting it sink in before responding. I can't wait to hear what happens! :)
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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 1:22pm

Wow that is so amazing! I do think things happen for a reason and it sounds like you two were supposed to re-connect again! You never know what can happen! Good luck!

Sunshine

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 1:28pm
That gave me a warm chill up my spine. I say EXPLORE IT :-)

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Tue, 06-21-2005 - 1:49pm

When he managed to locate me all those years ago after years of no contact (and with both of us moving about the world at different times) - I did think that perhaps we were destined to be with one another. (Especially since he found me just after we both got out of LTRs that were headed towards marriage).

He had said something along the lines of cosmic forces at work that kept us single because we were meant to find our way back to each other. This guy was my first grown-up crush. It wasn't love but he was the first guy for whom I felt not only a physical attraction - but a strong intellectual/emotional connection. But as the years passed, and as I got older I became more cynical. I'm still cynical. Deep inside I no longer feel that this will lead to anything. (For all I know he might have finally gotten married). But I will write back and see what happens.

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