Stalker!!

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Registered: 06-01-2006
Stalker!!
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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:37pm

Ok, I should have never met the guy to begin with (see my "It was so bad I have to laugh" post). There were red flags and I ignored them because I wanted to give the guy the benefit of the doubt. It was a learning experience and I'll be smarter next time...so, no lectures needed. I'm well aware of what I did wrong.

Having said that...this guy keeps texting me! He says stuff like "you weren't very friendly" and "do you wanna F***". What is WRONG with people? I keep hoping he'll email me through myspace so I can report him, but he's apparently too smart for that. Still, I'm keeping all the text messages, just in case.

So far I'm not responding, but could that be giving him reason to try harder? Should I DO something to stop this, or will it just make it worse?

Apparently, he is a complete loser if he can't handle rejection. Arghhh! So irritating!

Sorry, just had to vent, and to let you guys know that if you don't hear from me again, contact the authorities...I'm kidding (I hope)!!!

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In reply to: lostbee4
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:41pm

Ugh, I'm sorry to hear that!

Can you block him from text messaging you? My cell provider allows me to do that, so you might call your provider and see if that's an option.

If not, then if he doesn't stop in a day or two, you might try sending him *one* warning message--stop or I'll report you to the police for harrassment--but you need to be ready to follow through.

Sheri

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Registered: 02-02-2005
In reply to: lostbee4
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:44pm

Oh my gosh...that is awful! I cant believe he would have the guts or even desire to be writing stuff like that!! I would just ignore, actually knowing me i'd probably write something nasty back...does he know your last name or anything?

I dont use myspace and some of you here seem to have good luck with it...aside from you guys I dont know anyoen that uses it to meet people and this is the one site where i hear weird things about...I dont know if it's because it's free and so popular or what? My opinion is that if you are someone looking to date it's better to just use a site for dating. Myspace just seems like it has soo many people on it and obviously the weirdos know this and it attracts them...with all my annoying online experiences i luckily have NOT had anyone be rude or vulgar or stalkerlike.

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Registered: 06-01-2006
In reply to: lostbee4
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:45pm
Thanks...he's a firefighter, so I'm hoping he'll be too smart to take it any further. The warning is a great idea :) I hope I won't have to use it.
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Registered: 06-01-2006
In reply to: lostbee4
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:53pm

I posted the other day asking what the catch is. Myspace seemed so much better than match..so I was wondering why more people don't use it. Hmm...this guy answered my question, for sure!!

But I did meet one really great guy and he's going to call me tonight to plan a 2nd date, so we'll see. I think I'm going to delete my profile, though.

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Registered: 02-02-2005
In reply to: lostbee4
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:59pm

a lot of people i know that have accounts put, in a relationship even though they're not...they said this keeps people from emailing them about dates and stuff...i know guys who have even done this because they were tired of getting emailed by weird women and werent there for dating anyways lol!

If i decide to do more online dating again id probably do match...that seems to be the most well known and it's been around the longest. Im sure there are good guys on myspace too.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: lostbee4
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 2:09pm

Yeah, when I don't check off "Dating" or "Serious Relationships" I don't get as many emails.

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In reply to: lostbee4
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 2:44pm
Ditto what Sheri said. Do not reply to him. He will probably move on after a couple days. If he is persistent after that, then I'd send him the warning that you will contact authorities for harassment if he contacts you again.
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Registered: 07-20-2001
In reply to: lostbee4
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 5:41pm
Is this the guy who brought his kid with him? Hmmm...maybe threaten to call Family Services as you question how safe his daughter is around him????? Might not be a bad idea really. He sounds dangerous.