In a sticky situation..... Need advice..

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Registered: 02-10-2005
In a sticky situation..... Need advice..
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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 11:03am

I have a question for all of you, and hopefully you can help me out. I am in kind of a sticky situation right now. I started talking to this guy on the internet about 2 months ago. We started out talking just as friends, and everything was great between us...Then we found out that we had feelings for each other, and we decided to try to have a relationship.

He lives in New Jersey, and I live in Arizona, but we thought that we would give it a try since we had so much in common. Well my major problem with all of this is that when we first started talking, he asked for a picture of myself. Well I have always had a problem with self esteem and self image, so I stupidly gave him a picture of another girl who is pretty attractive. I wasnt really thinking at the time that anything would happen between this guy and myself and I didnt want to think about what he would say about me if he saw my real picture. Now I am not saying that I am a horribly unattractive person. I have blonde hair, blue eyes, i'm 24 years old 5'8. I think that my main problem with myself is my weight. I have always had a problem with that. Now the guy I am talking to is an average looking guy who is also a little overweight, but I dont care about that thing.

Well now he is talking about coming out here to meet me, and it has me scared. Because I dont know what he will do when he finds out that the pic I gave him was not a real picture of me. He tells me all the time that he loves me for my personality, and the ways that I act, and how much we have in common. Since I have only showed him one pic of myself, I try to believe that....But I dont know for sure....

Can anyone tell me what I should do before this guy decides to come and meet me? I really dont want to lose him, so that is why I am hesitant on telling him the truth, but on the other hand, this cannot continue with him thinking that I look like someone else....

Please help me! Any advice would be appreciated...

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Registered: 05-12-2005
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 4:37pm
you better send him a picture of yourself before he wastes his time and yours.

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