The stigma of online dating

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Registered: 09-03-2003
The stigma of online dating
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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:00pm
This has probably been addressed numerous times before, but just curious... How do you all deal with the stigma of online dating? When you tell people you have a date and they ask how you met, do you lie or tell the truth?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:11pm
Date? What's a date?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2005
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:53pm

He, he.

 
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:55pm
I tell the truth. I don't care. It's their prejudice and their problem - not mine.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-14-2004
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 5:34pm

I do the same. My parents know I met my current boyfriend online, my friends know, my coworkers know, his friends know. So far I haven't had one person make a big deal out of it, actually I'm surprised at how many people say things like "me too!" "I have a friend who just married someone from match" "A bunch of my friends are doing that" "that's so cool" "I've been wanting to try it out for a while, how is it?"

It's only a stigma if you make a big deal out of it. I act normal and I get normal replies...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 6:26pm

There really ISN'T any stigma attached to OLD anymore by single people. The only ones who attach the 'stigma' are those who are married or... those recently divorced who tried it and failed at it.

I have no problem telling people when I'm Online. I want it (the whole concept) to become as regular as meeting through friends. I think we're almost there.

It hasn't happened to me yet, but I'm waiting for some numbnut married-guy to spit out some stupid remark to me like, "Yeah, if Barb and I ever divorced I doubt I'd ever do that weird online thing."

I'll stand tall, push back my shoulders and retort, "I get laid 3 times a week from the sites. HowBoutChew, pal?"

LOL. If he ever divorces I'll let him find the truth out for himself.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 8:14pm
hey at 47 years old, I dont care what "stigma" is attached to it if anything... I think it is pretty cool and even brag about it.... I only wish they had it 20 something years ago...
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 8:23pm
:) I LIKE YOUR ATTITUDE!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2003
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 9:49pm
I don't think there is a "stigma." However, many people think meeting a "stranger" could be dangerous. (So could going out with anyone, of course.) I don't have a problem with telling people about my new "hobby." In fact, I'm sort of a missionary for OLD!
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2004
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 12:02am
All the people important to me know that I do OLD, so it isn't news to them and the rest of the people, I don't particularly give a hoot what they think anyway. I actually seem to becoming somewhat of an advocate for OLD amongst my friends and co-workers, so I hope they do it and are successful, or at least have fun. And I tell everyone that I wouldn't enjoy it so much nor be nearly as successful at it if it wasn't for this messageboard :-)
(in this case I qualify success as having dates in general, not a relationship itself)
J
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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 10:56am

Any stigma that exists get perpetuated by telling people you met any other way.

Why not bring into the light that fact that "normal" people do OLD and it's nothing to be ashamed of?

Tracy

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