This still makes me nuts on OLD

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Registered: 01-02-2008
This still makes me nuts on OLD
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Mon, 08-29-2011 - 6:32pm

I must have said this same thing a million times but I still cant get over the fact that men on OLD that have written to me and never made a move are constantly on OLD..

Its like one guy I spoke with seems to be on there all day and night.. what is he doing? what are all of the guys doing on there all day and night long? There cant be that many people to speak with or write too or chat with all the time..

I also thought it was because they left their computer window open and it showed they were on all the time. Well? I tried that and

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 08-29-2011 - 10:46pm

I don't notice too much when someone is on because usually if things don't work out, I just X them out so I don't see their profiles.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 08-29-2011 - 11:11pm

oh; Yes Music that is what I mean.

I mean your guy could spend a million hours on dating site and keep looking forever yet he couldnt spend an hour at lunch with you? A real live women who can talk and walk and all that stuff? I dont get it.

That is what I dont get with these guys. Its like they know they can meet us or someone in real life yet they continue to stay on the site and just keep looking and looking. What does that accomplish?

At some point they should be getting out there and meeting people in person atleast for coffee or lunch and all I see is them on the site.. If they are on the site that much they cant be going out in real life..

sometimes I wonder if most of them just want pen pals .. But since there are literally thousands of men and

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 08-30-2011 - 11:55am

What makes me really irritated about my friend is that I didn't give him any indication that I was looking for romance w/ him--the way I put it was like hey, we haven't seen each other in so many years, let's get together & catch up.

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Tue, 08-30-2011 - 8:03pm

I'm pretty jaded with OLD mainly b/c finding someone great is finding needle in a haystack. However, like playing the lotto, you can't win if you don't play.

So,I have no expectation. If a guy doesn't make concrete plans to proceed on to meet me in a timely manner, I ignore him. If they're on all the time, that means they're looking. If they're not interested enough to ask you out, they're not worth your time.

I have to tell you though, I've done so many things over the years to meet guys. 99% of the time, you meet duds. But be alert when you do meet the one in a hundred that could be great and recognize him. I've passed up a couple of them in the distant past. Still regretful.

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Registered: 04-15-2009
Sun, 09-04-2011 - 2:56am
Everyone's posts had me thinking... The best prospects are new members... If the same old guys are always there and always on, they are probably on there to get around to find women to have sex with or no women have snatched them up because they are not good prospects. I have always done better in the beginning of my memberships because I was new. Most of the guys with whom things went well were also new members... So keep tabs on them and concentrate on new faces. Just my 2 cents.
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Registered: 08-09-2010
Mon, 09-05-2011 - 5:46pm

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Registered: 05-19-2011
Sun, 09-11-2011 - 10:47pm

Someone might have said this, but I think some guys use online dating as a way to collect photos of girls...as creepy as it sounds.