still new at this, don't know next step
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| Tue, 12-12-2006 - 4:06pm |
I've been browsing lavalife for a while now, and have finally met someone I REALLY like- but because this is all so new to me (this is the first time I've really 'dated' in over a year because I was involved with someone else) I really don't know how to go about things.
Sunday afternoon a guy IMed me- seemed like a really nice guy. I get a little anxious with the ones that IM you before they email just because I find these are the ones that want to meet RIGHT AWAY. Guess this isn't such a bad thing as it cuts out the issue of getting stuck in a strictly electronic relationship, but because I'm self-conscious about my weight (I'm a size 18) I alway get very nervous about meeting new men too soon.
But, here's the weird twist of fate: when he asked me what I had done that weekend, I mentioned work. He asked me what kind of job I have, I told him about my part-time job working in sales for a beer company- they send me around to different liquor stores giving away samples and prizes with cases. After I say this, he doesn't respond for a second, and then asks me if he can ask a 'weird question'. I say sure. So he askes "Were you at the South Street Liquor Store last night??" LOL- as it turns out, the guy that IMed me on Sunday was actually a guy I had met and flirted with the previous evening. He thought I was 'beautiful'- so I guess I don't have to be worried about him running away when he sees me in person :) Stranger yet, he sent me a smile back in October- but because I really wasnt' ready to date at that point, I ignored it until now.
So we ended up meeting at a Starbucks that night- and it went amazingly well. We have tons in common, we have chemestry, and when we parted ways he says "This was fun- we should make it drinks or maybe a bottle of wine next time". I agreed, he mentioned next weekend, but I had to decline as I am getting my wisdom teeth out on Friday (which he knows isn't just an excuse, as I had mentioned it on MSN before we decided to meet up). So I told him he has my number and should call me some time (although when he replied "and you have mine too" I worried that he wants me to make the next move).
Okay- that was long-winded- here's my question: I'm not sure what to do next. I really don't have time for him until next week- my evenings this week are completely filled and my weekend will be spent recovering from my wisdom teeth. Should I just leave it until he decides to call me, or should I email him saying I had a good time Sunday? I'm leaning towards sending that email, but I have NO idea what to write in it! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I would let him call you--I prefer to know that a guy is interested without me having to prod him, KWIM?
Sheri